On-line dating adventures after Divorce

On-line dating has been around for quite a while now. My ‘single’ status has not, though. So here I am forced to seek out a stranger to welcome into my life. I have to say that this goes against everything that my parents warned me about. “Don’t talk to strangers and never get into a strangers car. This also applies to Uber and Lyft services. 😂

I have to say, I always thought it would be more fun browsing who else is looking for that elusive soul-mate, that unicorn… but no. It was not like that at all, I joined eHarmony (a 3 month subscription). I did the 100 question quiz thing that they use to find your matches. I finally got to the. part where you get to like or eliminate people who closely match you and your answers.

This part is the part that I don’t like. I start to feel really shallow. I feel badly for giving people the “X” if i don’t 💗 them. If I’m not attracted, ok, can’t help that (but still feel bad). Click “X”. But when I really feel badly is when someone sends me a message and I am not interested. Now I’m forced to either ignore the message, or respond and reject someone. Geez… I’m not cut out for this. 😂

All that to say that by the first night, I had not found anyone that caught my attention. Two days later, i cancelled my subscription. Unfortunately, they would only allow me to ‘not renew’ the subscription after 3 months. So I guess I’m stuck with it. I’ll check on it once a week to see if anything interesting pops up.

My co-worker mentioned that she uses the dating feature on FB. I decided to try it. I created a profile the other day. i was worried that my FB friends and family would find out that I was using the dating feature. But when I starting filling in the profile, there was a pop up that said that FB would not match you with anyone in your friends list. So I felt a little relief and continued on.

Fast-forward – profile filled out completely, added recent pics, started browsing. I put the age range of 47-55. I am 51.  I started browsing. There were more attractive looking men on this platform, however, I noticed that on some of the profiles, it would notify me if we had mutual FB friends. 🙈 So, basically, if someone were to see that we have mutual friends, they could possibly contact the mutual friend and mention that they saw me on the dating feature.

I guess its not THAT big of a deal, but I like to keep my love-life pretty private until I am in a serious relationship. So fast forward again. Yesterday, someone sent me a 💗 and he was pretty cute, so i sent him one back (we ‘matched’). This morning, I see that he sent me a message. It said “Hey, weren’t you in [catholic youth group] with Brother Benny?” I opened his profile to see that we had 4 friends in common. 😳 I figured ‘Ok, fine. Its whatever, I’m not gonna trip over it. Let’s see what happens.’ I go back to his profile and read it a little more carefully this time and come to find out that he went to the same high school as my ex-husband’s brother who is only 2 years older than us. It was a small catholic school for boys so the chances that they know each other are in the high 90% range. I will feel it out for the next few days, I guess. I just would rather not have the subject of my ex eventually come up in conversation.

I think I’ll continue to post my adventures nightly. I have a feeling this is going to be a bumpy ride. I’ve had the desire to start journaling again and this is just what my writer’s block needs! LOL