09.02.13 – New Music Monday
This week has been…odd.
I’m not used to texting quite as much as I have this week. And that hasn’t been bad, just different. The run down is that I’ve closed the dating profile. Long story short, I added a guy to my facebook and he went from normal to pervert almost instantly. It started with him asking only sexual questions.
Literally, I’d ask things like ‘what’s your favorite color?’ and he’d follow it up with ‘what’s your favorite sexual position?’ I tried to gently rebuff. I tried to be direct and say "I don’t answer sexual questions unless I’m in a relationship with someone."
Finally, when it was clear that he wasn’t taking the hint (‘I can tell you want it really bad’ … Oh you can tell? From what? The way I don’t answer your questions?) so I told him "I’m sorry, this just isn’t going to work out."
His response? "Thanks. Wanna fool around on here?"
No I don’t.
"Will you send me pictures at least?"
"No. Sorry."
"How about for $300?"
Are you serious? First of all I guess I should be flattered, and goodness knows I could use the money, but I’m the person who thinks sharing my body with someone should be special. So no. I’m not for sale.
And since I’m still having a hard enough time picking between the two really decent guys that I’m talking to, disabling my profile seemed like a logical step. And yes, I’m still talking to both of them. If I could find a way to merge the two it would be perfect. But I can’t. So I’m trying to take it slow. No pressure. They both know that I’ve been talking to other people and I don’t owe either of them anything yet…
But I’m still not fully comfortable with the situation I find myself in. It just feels like it’s going to eventually get messy and lead to someone getting hurt. And that’s the last thing I want to do to anyone. Or to myself.
Dating is scary. And this isn’t even one of the situations I imagined when I thought that dating was scary. *sigh*
Ok. Music time.
This week, like last, I don’t promise that new has anything to do with the time of release. It’s just about introducing it to you. And sometimes that’s not so much an introduction as a reintroduction to a song. So if you see some old songs, no…I’m not confused.
1.Time of the Season by The Zombies
2. Sort Of by Ingrid Michaelson
3. Growing Old is Getting Old by Silversun Pickups
4. Burn by Ellie Goulding
5. Closed Hand, Full of Friends by Foy Vance
6. Elephant [feat. Jocelyn Scofield] by Gavin Mikhail
7. Ruby Blue by Roisin Murphy
8. Here Comes my Baby by Sons of Admirals
9. Charlie Boy by The Lumineers
10. Slow Hands by Interpol
Thank you very kindly for your note, it means a lot to me. I LOVE The Zombies’ song that you posted. I remember listening to it on LP in my parents’ basement when I was young. Even at that time, it felt different than other music I listened to; different in a good way. As for online dating creeps, as a guy, I’ve never found any sexually obsessed women. What I have found though, are women who…
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quickly become stalkers. All of a sudden they want to know where you are at all hours of the day. As a guy who has never been in a truly serious relationship, this is very off-putting. I enjoy not having to be accountable at all hours of the day to everyone. In my personal time, I am my own boss. As for having to decide between the two men that you’re talking to, you’re right, you don’t owe…
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either of them anything. You’re also right by taking your time. In the end, it is your decision. I know how difficult things have been for you in the past, but I truly hope that this is the beginning of things getting easier. You deserve the good things in life; you always have. Take care, Always, -mike
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*Random Wayfarer of Diaries* Sorry that my gender is so…screwed up at times….. As a fellow hopeless romantic I would never do such things to women, I respect them far too highly. Random Music none of which I recognize, but that happens allot to me. For combinations of the opposing sex being best, yeah I’ve had that happen allot too. Good Luck and Best Wishes in sorting all this out,
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Thanks for the notes! I haven’t forgotten to post or stopped checking in, life has just gone insane. There will be a new post hopefully monday.
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Thank you for your latest note. I know that ‘assisted suicide’ isn’t the usual water cooler talk, but I’m trying to break down some barriers. As always, I truly appreciate your opinion, honesty, and your words. One day soon, I hope we have time to talk to each other in more than 400 character bursts. Take care, Always, -mike
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