A New Addition to Our Family And…………

A New Addition to an Already Expanded Family.

 

If I allow myself, I think long and hard about my past. If there is one thing I can honestly advise the young men of this world, it is to live fast and hard while you are young. I am in no way condoling drugs, am in no way saying drink to the max, but I am saying protect yourself and negate the urge to have children early in your life.

 

Yes, I am sure that there are a great many young men who are maternally minded, that marriage and children are the foremost in their minds, but if you are that man, ensure that you really do have the one and only from the start. Failing to reach this understanding will result in nothing but unrewarding hard work and pain, with no result and no finish to the struggle.

 

There is however, one and only one safety net! The safeguard I am referring to is the realization I myself have just had. There are times in a mans life that all works out in the end. They are short coming and involve understanding and sacrifice from people other than yourself, but if you are willing to be humble and tolerant, you will reap the rewards of your persistence.

 

You will never ever in your life catch flies with vinegar, and you will never reach another with toxic words. Life is all about realizing you faults, atoning for them, and as I said before, being humble. If you take the time to think how another feels about your actions, you will think long and hard about the consequences of those actions.

 

I was married young; I craved the ideal of a family, a house, a good wife and career. What I didn’t think about all that time ago was the simple fact that I had not yet lived. At twenty four years of age I had already been married three years and had a new baby girl. On top of that, I had a mortgage and an unstable job. As it turned out, the one thing that was stable in the years to come was my job, not my home life. In fact, the woman I had chosen to live my life out with was probably the worst choice I could have made. We just didn’t match, in sooooo many ways.

 

The plus side to this though, is the fact that she and I actually came together more once we had split up, and worked hard together to ensure the happiness of our two children. Once I was single, I will admit I lived the life I had never lived before. I hit the band scene, had several girlfriends, and partied often. You could say that I lived the life of a very happy single man. I was never without a woman by my side. My ex wife was not always happy with the choices I made, but she was never judgmental about them. Why? Well I guess I made sure that she knew enough to still have an opinion, but not enough to change the way I now lived my life. I guess I was at times, not exactly honest. I wasn’t deceitful, but I was very careful.

 

I managed to have the fun I wanted, but still had a grasp on reality, I never lost track of the important things in life, the futures of my two daughters Krystelle and Tabetha. As most of you know, I reached a point in my life that sex meant nothing at all to me, in fact it had a huge bearing on my decision to remain celibate, a period that eventually lasted for a couple of years. At the age of thirty five I really did believe that I was going to be a single man for the rest of my it. In addition to this, I was happy to be there and the girls and I forged a lasting bond.

 

That was about the time that I met most of you, Open Diary allowed me to meet a great many wonderful people, most of my friendships forged in the proceeding year. A good friend of mine (now living in Japan), was witness to my many on line flings, and it’s funny that she too has ended up in the same position as I, in love and married to a person she met right here on line.

 

I know I am rambling, doing the very thing that all of you know I do very well, but I assure you, this is a means to an end, a happy one at that! I met Ani and soon after left my home state of Queensland to be with her, a move that has changed my life in more ways than one. Where I live now is a two hour flight from home and a long way from the arms of my girls. I did this how ever, because I felt that I needed to live the life I deserved to have. In a way I know it was selfish, but as it all turned out, it was the best thing I ever did!

 

Krystelle made the decision to move here with me nearly a year ago. It was originally only suppo

sed to be for a year, but she maintains that she will never go back to her mother. That is her decision and I will in no way influence that, I don’t want to ever be thought of as the “bad man”. The thing is however, that Ani and I have now given life to a new baby boy. Tai, called this as an analogy to the point that he “ties” the two families together, turned out to ne the one thing that actually “draws” the families together. I say this in more ways than one.

 

Tai really is “drawing” in the rest of the family. The title of this blog reads “A New Addition”, that new addition is Tabetha. She has stated many times over the phone, during her last visit her, and only yesterday, that she wants to be apart of “This” family, a real family.

 

As of this December, “The Mini Monk” will be residing in the McCoy household, right here in Canberra. Look, I knew this “may” happen, but never thought it would! It was a dream of mine to have all my kids in my custody, but for Carols sake never perused it. I don’t know if you all know what this actually means for me?!!!! It means the completion of all I ever wanted in life! Here are the stats: five kids, two adults, a four bedroom house, a shit load of outlay in dollars!!! WHO, GIVES, A, SHIT!!!!!! I have all my babies’ right here with me!

 

So now we have Tai aged 15 weeks, Jack aged 6 years, Tab aged 8 years, Morgan aged 9 years, and Krystelle aged 14 years going on TWENTY!!!!!!!! This is my life, and I would never EVER change a thing! Carol was less than happy about Tabby’s choice, but at the end of the day, it WAS Tabby’s choice.

 

I am thirty eight years of age, I am the father of two girls and one son to blood, I now have two sons born of Ani who call me Dad. I have a great job, have a woman in my life as professional in her career as she is an awesome mother, and I have NOTHING to complain about. Both my girls want to be here with me, my mother now wants to move here too to be close to her grand kids, So, what else is there left to accomplish, what else is there left to do? I guess propose huh!

 

I could have taken her up in a hot air balloon; I could have taken her out to a French restaurant. I could have got down on bended knee in front of strangers and friends, asked her hand in marriage in the presence of those I thought would be most admiring, those that would bathe me in applause. At the end of the day though, there are only five that should really have that experience, only five who have the right to see it all happen, my five children.

 

I bought the ring on the sly, told only a few of my intentions. I went home mid week mind you, so as not to give away the plan. I sat all the kids down with us in a family meeting. Then I blew them all away with my next move. They all thought they were in the poo, that they were going to be in the shit. Then after I explained where we had progressed to, I asked how they would all feel about Mum (Ani) and I (Dad) getting married. After they resounded a unanimous “Yes”! I asked Ani to marry me, and yes, she said “yes”.

 

We are a family based on choice, and as a family our choice must be based on family. Ani and I are now engaged to be married, and that choice is embraced by all in our family, we are now a whole,

We are family………

 

I Love You Guys!

Luke xoxoxo