Thank You

Thanks for all of your notes, everyone. It’s really helped me to write all of this down and get it out of my system before talking to him… Had I not written it down and read all of your comments I probably would’ve just started screaming at him. 🙂

I did talk to him again today. He wants to do this 30 day sex challenge thing (www.30daysexchallenge.com) and I agreed to it… So you have to fill out this questionaire thing and one of the questions on it is Rate how important honesty/openness is to you, how satisfied are you with the honesty/openness in your relationship… So I used that as an opportunity to talk about Jan. (The great thing was, we were reading each other our answers and as soon as he saw the question he goes "Yours says something along the lines of ‘I hate Jan…’…"  and then I read my answer, which dealt with Jan and how he’s lied to me about her.

He’s still not telling me everything, I’m sure. He still says he doesn’t remember why he talked to her on the phone and he says he doesn’t know why he hid it from me and lied to me more than once. I told him that I feel threatened by her because he risked everything by lying to me about her on more than one occasion. I asked him WHY he would risk that for HER. I asked him if he had feelings for her and I told him that I felt like he must, otherwise he would not have EVER felt the need to hide things from me or lie to me. He didn’t really have any answers, but I felt a little better just telling him exactly how I felt.

I also made it clear to him that if she contacts him again he needs to TELL ME. I told him that I will be irate and irrational and I will likely throw a fit and possibly cry, but I will NOT be mad at him as long as he tells me and doesn’t lie or hide it from me. He promised he would tell me if she contacted him again.

He still hasn’t admitted to talking to her while I was pregnant with Makenzie. I really hope he has nothing to hide, but is just afraid that I will leave him if I find out. (I do really wish I could tell him that I know… I know that if my SIL lets me tell him what I know it will cause a huge argument between her and her husband, though).

So that’s another update! Thanks again for all your support! Also, I’ll respond to notes as soon as I can. I was going to right now, but Makenzie is trying to rip my hair out and I REALLY need her to go to bed!  Please donate wigs. Ouch.