One less family member, one more house member

Today I am done with my step-mom. I know I have said it before, but I have never wrote it. Now to list all the reasons. Well not nearly all of them, but the main ones.

1. Age 16 – She blamed all of her financial trouble on me.

She decided one day that she is in debt because of my mom’s and dad’s divorce. I don’t really know how I fit into that, but she seems to think I do. I guess her debt isn’t because of thier $150,000 house, or her shopping problems, or the fact that she looses everything and then buys it again. Just the other day I was there and found 5 swiffers still in the boxes.

2. Age 18 – She informs me that she loves her real children more then me.

It might be true but do you tell that to a kid? No, you don’t. This all started one day when I was helping her clean her nasty house. I was cleaning all day (literally) and wanted to take a break. Her son comes home from a friends house at 8pm and takes one trash bag out for her. ONE! She then procedes to ask me why I am not more like him. When I reminded her that I have been cleaning all day she informs me that she loves her kids more then me so nothing I can do will be enough. She then procedes to kick me out for the umteenth time. This time I go.

3. Age 23 – She does everything she can to not let me go to college.

Untill I am 24 I need my parents tax return to file for grants from the college. This year my stepmom decided to not let me have it. When I asked her why she told me "just because." That was when I quit talking to her any more then was nessicary. I got my mom’s information but she lives out of state so I misses out on the IL grant.

4. Age 23 – She trys to leave me stranded at her house when I have a paper due the next day.

She picked me up so I could help clean a room so someone visting has a place to stay. (I did it for the person visiting. NOT HER!) After cleaning for a good 5 hours she decides that she has had enough (of what I don’t know) and is going to bed. So I send my little brother up to ask her to take me home. After he asks her 4 times, she comes down and slams dishes around and screams "FINE! I’LL TAKE YOU HOME!"

Yea…So today I just decided that I am no longer going to have any contact with her. I am going to inform my dad tomorrow that I am no longer comming over for thanksgiving. I am also going to tell him that if they move to Kentuky that I am going to try my hardest to get custody of my little brother. It won’t be hard. He wants to move in with me and her house is gross. I mean cockroaches, mice, ants, knats, flies, month old food out, poop on the floor, 9 cats, 4 dogs gross. When my sister had to move back in she spent 2 days cleaning just so her boyfriends wheel chair could get back to her room.

I am so sick of her tell my little brother that he is worthless and should be beaten. She has never physically hurt him but the emotional abuse is rediculous. She will make him promises and then break them just because. She is also a fat cow and her kids are all skinny. I use to tell her to feed my little brother before he came over. She would get mad at me because she didn’t have the money to feed him. Then if he would call her later she would be at mcdonalds or some other fast food place. Today they only got one meal and it wasn’t untill about 8pm, and that was only because my sister bought it for them.

Now that I am typing this I can really see how bad it is. I grew up with it so to me it just seems mildly different. Now that I am trying to figure out what others are going to think of this I know it is awful. Tomorrow I am going to call my dad and tell him that things need to change. He doesn’t want to divorce her because he knows that she will get custody of wesley since he is a truck driver and never home. Tomorrow I am just going to have to straght tell him that things have to change. He can move in with me and my boyfriend and get a job where he will be home every day. If he can’t do that then I will get married to Ryan so it will show that I have enough income to have custody of him. I know my dad is worried that if he gets a regular job that he won’t make enough money. I also know that he doesn’t want to have his 22 year old son-in-law supporting him. That is tough shit. If he really loves wesley he will do this with me. If not, I will do it alone.