Date with Mike

There is so much to catch up on, but it’s going to take a lot of time and effort that I don’t have right now! What I don’t want to miss out on is remembering my dating life right now. I want to capture the dates, how they make me feel, and where I am at with all of it! I am looking forward to therapy tomorrow to process a lot that’s going on – but I need to keep some notes, for myself, on this process as well.

Friday night I met Mike for the first time. We first talked in April, but I ignored him for a bit and we have regularly been chatting for a few weeks now. He lives in Cape Coral – about 45 mins from me. I drove down. Broke several of my own safety rules – but Nichole was tracking me and had his info. So there was something in place. I met at his apartment. We ubered to our first destination for the night. I know in one of his profile pics he’d been wearing a Yankees hat, but we’d not talked about sports. In the uber, sports came up with the driver. Mike mentioned the Jets and the Yankess. I laughed and said “so is now the time I mention I’m a Red Sox fan and NE fan?” He was like “how have you not mentioned this” and asked the driver to dump me in a canal somewhere LOL! I told the driver we had just met that night. Mike clarified “she says we just met, and while that’s true, we have been talking for awhile now. This could have been mentioned.” The driver had a great time with us, and the ice was broken quickly – nothing felt awkward – I was no longer nervous.

We went to the Dek and played bar bingo with some of his friends. Everyone was very nice. Bingo was hilarious! If someone called Bingo incorrectly they had to eat a packed of mayo – that part was disgusting. Thank goodness I never had to – I also never won. HAHA! But, the game was fun. After bingo, we went somewhere else (without his friends.) He told me he was taking me to a NY-BOS bar to watch the Yankees Boston game (they just happened to playing that night!) I didn’t believe him that there was such a bar….but he proved me wrong! It was great. We wagered a shot on the game. We watched at that bar until the top of the 8th and took off for another bar.

We asked the bartender of this next bar to turn the game on for us. We enjoyed a lot of trash talk and more drinks as the game went 11 innings – with Boston winning! He bought shots 🙂 We made one last stop for the night. By this time, I was done drinking but enjoyed the dance floor. He was very handsy, in just the way I like when I am drunk. Pulling in my hair, kissing, grinding on the dance floor. We ran into some of his neighbors and had one more shot with them. Once we finally headed back to his place, I was ready! I think we both were – we’d done a lot of teasing all around at the last bar and in the uber on the way home.

He knows I have been part of the kink and swinging lifestyle. He has a fantasy of sharing and watching a girl with another guy. He was trying to encourage me to pick up a guy at the bar to bring back with us. It was a fun banter – and normally I have with guys about another girl. I wasn’t going to do that the first time – but could be something in the future!

We got back to his place and took his adorable dog, Roxy, for a walk. Love her!

After that, we got down to business! He started us out on his 3rd floor balcony and that was fun. I love the exhibitionism of maybe being seen, but knowing we were up late enough it was probably okay too. I lost the concept of time – but we messed around for maybe 90 mins. Balcony to living room to bedroom. When he pulled out some tie downs and tied me to the bed I was thinking “I hope this works out in my favor…this is where I could really enjoy myself, or where I die!” LOL – thankfully I really enjoyed myself. He is definitely a little switchy and enjoyed me taking over at times too. He liked pain and things pretty intensely. It was fun.

Was it an Eric-level sexual connection? Not even close! Would I do it again. Sure.

I crashed there and headed out around 8AM. He was sweet when he woke up the next morning – he set out a toothbrush and ibuprofen incase I needed either. Thankfully I didn’t need the ibuprofen LOL!

He messaged me after I left and said he had fun and wanted to do it again.

We wagered on Saturday’s game – dinner and a massage. I lost. LOL. Oh well – probably a win-win proposition even for whomever lost.

Not sure when we’ll go out again.

He is just going to be fun. I am trying to figure out if I even want serious with anyone. I think it has to be the right person. I don’t see him as the right person. And I am good with the occasional fun with him for now.

Tonight I have a date with Miguel. That’s going to be a more complicated situation. More on that later.