April 22 and Beyond

  1. After 2 months of going in circles, I got a new doctor. One who actually does stuff. My ferritin was 5 on June 15th. It takes time to get into seeing about help even after the referral letters come back. Reading up on anemia it seems that once you get iron back to the normal range it still might be 4-6 weeks before there are enough red blood cells to make you feel like doing stuff. Right now it comes in little waves which make me try to do stuff and then stop me dead after a pretty short time. There’s a lot of stuff doing that I need to be involved with.
  2. We decided to take back the rental at the end of the lease in June. The renters decided to quit paying in Feb and haven’t moved out which is understandable since it’s hard to find a place to rent that accepts no payments. Monday we have another (yes another) go at unlawful detainer since the tenant’s freebie lawyer tried to say our LLC invalidates the lease because the property management company that moved the “Muskrat” in years ago does not have authority to represent us. In effect, we are not us…delay tactic. But if you are not a legitimate tenant and you do not pay then you are a squatter?
  3. The neighbors of the rental decided they want a nicer fence. They decided to build it on the day we go to court for ULD. They sent us a letter saying helping to replace THEIR fence would be good for us since we’ll be trying to get new tenants soon. Whose business is that? I have never met or even laid eyes on these folks but they think I should give them over $2100 to build their fence. The short answer is no. Want something fancy and don’t want to pay for it? Just ask a total stranger. I have a 19-year-old fridge with crisper bins held together with packing tape. Yes, I can go get a new one but I also have to buy a new stove and fridge and floors and windows for the rental. I’m just going to wander around with the pockets hanging out of my jeans so people can have all the lint they want and won’t have to dig for what isn’t there.
  4. We shifted gears to redo Pup’s kitchen and finish flooring there. It’s only 20 years overdue but my parents were very resistant to anything nice so we had to wait to fix our own house. This is a good time for Hubbin to bond with his 30 & 23-year-old sons over home improvement practices which will have to be expedited when we do finally get the other rental back.
  5. So anemia girl has to get better and do as much as she can before whatever happens whenever it happens because Hubbin goes back to teaching end of September. Then it’s all on me and whatever help I can manage to get from Wu & Pup when they aren’t adulting. I’ll be living there because the last thing we need is squatters.
  6. I won’t be going back to University. I wasn’t sure about this until nearly the end of the wolf guys poetry class(which was terrific) but I was sitting at the rail overpass (in the part of town where we used to have a prolific serial killer and now there’s a homeless camp you cannot avoid driving through as you leave the “Essy” building where creative classes are held) at nearly 10 pm, stopped at a light, while a guy stands on the corner taking a leak for all to see when I decided two years of this bs isn’t for me. Wolf guy was pretty entertaining in some “oh I’m not the only one who does that” ways but I loathe poetry readings. I couldn’t make myself like them and I really tried but they were physical torture above and beyond being the captive audience for trauma stories I could not opt-out of.

 

 

 

 

 

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July 9, 2022

I know what you mean about being a captive audience for “trauma stories”.  I have deleted and blocked a couple of “friends” here on OD for that very reason.  Okay, you had a trauma.  But what are you doing NOW?  And if the answer to that is whining, then I’m out.

July 9, 2022

@novembercirese I understand that those stories are necessary for some people but when you are trapped in a public forum where it would be in bad taste to get up and walk out might be a good time to say “and if you’d like to hear more check out my book. 30 years ago it was the same deal except Oprah had convinced everyone they’d all been abused somehow and if you think you didn’t it’s because you don’t remember. To this end, I was segregated several times (from toxic masculines) so I could reveal my darkest secrets, except I didn’t have those stories to tell and was treated as if I was merely refusing to comply. Had I actually had something really awful in my proverbial closet this could have been very damaging. The people who thought this type of sharing was cool should have known better.

July 10, 2022

@tunguska All I’m going to say is that a therapist encouraged me to “tell all” and “if it walks like a duck and quacks like a duck…”  I did and it caused SO MANY AWFUL PROBLEMS I wish I would have just stayed quiet.  But that was then and this is now.

 

July 11, 2022

I am sorry you are going through the issues with the tenant.  Yay for having a doctor who actually cares to do something.  It sounds like you will be back in balance.  Nice to catch up with you today.  😎