6/20/2022
So our apartment has been taken over by new owners. That means that they want us to sign a new lease. They are raising the rent by $150 and they say we can’t have pets (even though we paid the last landlord a pet deposit). We have an appointment to go talk to them tomorrow morning. I won’t sign a lease that says no pets. N says if they won’t let Dexter stay there that I can take Dexter to my mom’s. Um. No. He asked if I wanted to be there if my cat wasn’t there. I said no. He asked if I would really pick a cat over him. I didn’t respond, I changed the subject. I won’t answer that outright until I have to. IF they won’t let us keep Dexter, then yes, I WILL choose my cat over a selfish dick-head. My cat has never yelled at me or treated me like shit. So it’s pretty much a no-brainer here. How he thinks it’s even really a real choice for me is beyond delusional.
I accidently knocked his laptop to the floor the other day. I was leaving to go to work and I left my phone in the apartment. I realized this once I got to the car. I ran back inside, and it was so dark in the apartment after being out in the sun, I couldn’t see. I was trying to be careful, but I still ran into the laptop stand and knocked it over. I put it back, then grabbed my phone, and ran out the door because I was going to be late for work. Later than night he yelled about me for about an hour and a half about knocking it over. There wasn’t even anything wrong with it. I didn’t break it, it works fine. I didn’t do it on purpose, but he compared it to me hitting his car and driving off or something. I said that was such a stretch, and I told him he’s materialistic because he cares more about objects than anyone else’s feelings. So he just yelled at me forever until I started crying, then he called me a teenager for crying. He said I shouldn’t cry because I’m an adult. I called him out for gaslighting. I said it’s perfectly normal for an adult to cry if they are being treated like shit, and calling me crazy or a child is gaslighting. Anyway, after all that I don’t see how he could possibly think it’s even a close race between him and my cat. It never has been, but definitely not now.
So, there’s this girl I used to work with and she’s moving in with her boyfriend. She asked if I wanted to take over her lease at her apartment. I told her I probably will. I will let her know for sure after tomorrow’s meeting with the new greedy-fuck landlords. And her apartment is really nice AND they allow pets. If things go how I think they’re going to go, shit is pretty much about to blow up and I’m going to be living in this chick’s apartment with Dexter and leaving this ass-fuck douche-bag by himself. I’m sick of him and I’m sick of being treated like garbage. I’m so fucking over all this. I fucking hate him.
Some people don’t realize that our pets are like our babies…truly part of the family. If I lived somewhere that wouldn’t let me keep Winston, I’d have to go…simple as that.
That’s crazy that he would yell at you and for so long when there wasn’t even anything wrong with the dang laptop. As for crying, I do it all the time. It releases tension and makes me feel better, so. Crying is not just for kids and teenagers. He’s crazy!
You definitely need to leave him behind. Life is just too short to be treated that way.
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I used to consider myself a “cat person.” Even after adopting an older cat and finding I was deathly allergic to her, I kept her. Just washed my hands and face a shit ton for over 14 years cause she was my lovable asshole. Then I rescued my now 14 year old dog. This was almost 13 years ago and somehow he seeped into my soul and took over, teaching me what love truly looks like. No doubt I was the one that was rescued all those years ago. I’d willingly fall into a whole of swords for his spoiled butt – totally get the love for a pet is all I meant to say. lol
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It’s really too bad I didn’t read this earlier because I work in commercial property management. The assignor is suppose to give the assignee all the deposits it holds including any sort of pet deposit (because it’s just an additional Security Deposit to an accountant – probably in the same account or one off, example 26020.00 instead of 26010.00… I do realize how highly technical that is o.O). If they play games with the deposit and do not offer it back right away, then it needs to be lumped into your overall security deposit. You might have to look at the lease you signed and find a clause regarding Assignment and Assumption of Lease.
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As for the non technical stuff, that’s emotional abuse. You don’t deserve that – not even if it was broken. It’s just a thing. At least he has you and that’s all that should matter.
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