Looking Good…Mostly

I’m doing my best to say neutral, but yet excited all at the same time. I’ve been seeing this new one since the week before April began. We’ve seen each other two or three times a week, talked on the phone most nights and gotten to know each other very well. Dates have included hanging out with my friends, dinners, seeing bands, sleepovers (chaste ones believe it or not…okay, mostly chaste), and walks through parks. We have a weekend away planned for the weekend after next to Asheville. I tend not to write much when things are going well for two reasons 1) I’m too busy! and 2) I don’t want to jinx it.

We’ve decided to "take things slow" so as to avoid the hot and heavy beginning that leads to a crash later. Ok, HE’S decided. I really do think it’s a good idea, it’s just when something seems to be going well I tend to dive in. Tonight is a great example of me NOT being able to "take it slow," but I think I have a good reason for my frustrations tonight. We have talked in some form (voice, text, email) every day for the last two weeks. So when a bit of silence comes my way, I get a bit confused, and worried. Not that I think I have anything to worry about, I know I don’t, but I worry just the same. I hung out in his neck of the woods yesterday. We ate, went to the mall and the park and hung out at his house. He texted me on my way home that he had a good time and then later that night to say good night. Today…nothin’. I usually get a "good morning", or a "how was the day" text at some point during the day, so the silence (even 24 hours of it) is driving me crazy. (which is why I’m up writing on here!) I am sure he just had a busy day, and I suppose I could have contacted him. But I feel like it’s been me initiating it lately I want him to. (Although, in all fairness, he did text me twice last night. Christ, I feel like a stupid teenager!) Not to mention, since he brought up the not too fast thing and I don’t want him to feel smothered. So, I’m at a cross roads between contacting him and not. I for sure won’t tonight, but I really want to tomorrow.

I’m not very good at this sort of thing. It feels like a game, and I hate games. I’m not good at them and I don’t like playing them. So, I guess I won’t. I will contact him when I feel like it and if it’s too much, then we will just cross that bridge. However, I don’t want to be doing all of the contacting. He started with the daily stuff…I’m just following suite. I hate it when guys do this! They start out all strong, attentive and sweet, but the minute you respond in kind they just dash away. So…I’m hoping this one’s different, but I’m also trying to achieve a balance within myself. (ie, the neutral yet excited state I’m hoping to achieve) I am sure my next note will be about how wonderful our weekend away was.

Thanks for letting me bitch and be girlie for a second.

nicosdesire

April 18, 2011

Aww, thats sweet. The blossoming part of a relationship can be as hard as it is beautiful! Good luck!

beth

Wait…did you go back and copy and paste an old entry of mine??

Blokes are so funny, they will rush in like a tornado and then retrieve like white wash at the beach. Like, wtf is with that? Why can’t they maintain a constant? It is confusing and the state of mind that it puts you under the minute he behaves differently is torture! Women have a tendency to worry too much, read too much into things, and then when it gets too much to handle,they chuck in the towel in disgust and close the deal. Guys on the other hand, have a tendency to be in a world of their own, totally clueless to the fact that you are stressing about his lack of consistancy in his behaviour toward you. He will no doubt not even consider what you’re thinking, because in his mind, there is nothing to worry about, it’s all cool. Men and Women think so differently when it comes to new relationships. Men tend to get on with it and women tend to create a moutain out of a mole hill. Women invest too much expectation too soon and men tend to go with the flow and not worry about it. A man’s clock is so different to a woman’s clock. His hour is equal to one week of yours. The whole timeframe thing is out of whack all the time! Advice to you is, sit back, relax & let him come to you. G~

~Andrea Marie~

April 19, 2011

I’m glad to hear things are going so well so far…I’m sure he is just busy, so don’t stress too much. I think approaching it from a neutral angle is a great idea…If it’s going well things will work out (even if there is a little silence in between, that is just how life works sometimes). I highly doubt he would commit to a weekend away if he wasn’t into you and enjoying the relationship (or whatever you are calling it at this point) as much as you are. But like another fave and I were discussing earlier, every woman likes reassurance and communication. Nothing wrong with that. Can’t wait to hear about the weekend away, I’m sure it will be an awesome time! =)