Dinner and a movie

Date number three was pretty great.  I drove to his place where we drove to a Mexican restaurant for dinner.  After that we hit the little town square that wrapped around an outdoor amphitheater.  We got some ice cream and walked around the square discussing the pros and cons of small town vs. big city, among other things.  We went back to his place, opened a bottle of wine and watched the silliest movie I’ve seen in a while.  (Knight & Day)  It was fun and flirty (again).  After the movie we just talked for a while.  We can’t seem to say enough.  This time we talked about specifics and what we were looking for long term.  Of course the evening did heat up a bit more (ok…a lot more) and I ended up staying over.  He was as respectful as ever and besides some hot and heavy making out, we still have something to look forward to later.  It’s good to know we are compatible in both areas.  🙂 

All the great stuff aside, there was one awkward moment.  He’s coming to a friend of mine’s birthday pool party on Saturday, but first he is going to his nephew’s birthday party.  He was saying how he had forgotten to buy his nephew a present.  I knew he had plans with friends Thursday, so I asked him what he was doing on Friday.  As soon as I asked that he got a little…defensive I guess.  Asking me why I was asking, saying that he thought I already knew what he was doing.  I told him I was asking because I was just going to say he could buy the gift on Friday, and that I had no idea what his Friday plans were.  Apparently, when he had come to happy hour my friends were talking about going to the Braves game Friday and the pool party on Saturday.  The guys were asking him if he wanted to come.  He brushed of Friday by talking about Saturday.  I didn’t even notice.  It turns out he was trying to avoid talking about Friday and he thought that when I brought it up I was trying to get him to talk about it.  At this point I figured out what it was he was trying to avoid talking about so I told him I didn’t need to know what his Friday plans were, that I was just innocently asking his plans.  He went on to say that he actually had a date planned for Friday.  (like I said, by the time he got around to saying, I had it all figured out)  He said it had been planned for a while, before he and I really started to get to know each other.  He said he didn’t want to cancel because "he wasn’t that kind of person."  I told him (and I truly believe) that it wasn’t a big deal.  We met on E-Harmony, which lends its self to multi-person dating, plus we had only been hanging out for a week and a half.  I said that if we were actually sleeping together it would be different, but if that was the case then it would be my job to bring it up if it was my issue.  I also told him that if I was the girl on Friday, I would want to know if the guy who was taking me out was into someone else and just keeping the date because he’s not the type to back out on things.  He even said to me "come on, you’re telling me you havent’ been on a date since we started handing out," to which I answered "nope."  Honestly, he and I have talked so much there wouldn’t be time for anything else, plus I’m tired of the multi-guy thing if I find one I truly enjoy spending time with.  After talking it out things pretty much went back to normal.

I do have one other thought on the matter that I didn’t share with him.  If he was perfectly content with us and where we are at (albeit in a short period of time), he wouldn’t want to go out with another girl, and he would have canceled.  This leads me to believe that there is something about her that he likes, or intrigues him enough to see her.  Either way…I’m still okay with it.  We have just started hanging out.  Who’s to say I won’t be out tonight and meet a guy who I might want to go out with. 

In a related story…we were talking on the phone last night, avoiding any real conversation about his Friday plans, when he mentioned that he had a ticket with his friends to an arena football game Friday night at 8:00 and that he was planning on being there on time.  He said he would send me pics.  He made a point to tell me (often) how he had been thinking about me all day and that I was "pretty amazing."  I can’t worry about his date.  Either he’s into me or he’s not, and if after all we’ve shared in this short amount of time can be so easily dismissed, then it wasn’t meant to be.  Plus, I don’t have the energy to compete with another woman.  God, I love being "old and wise."  It’s a lot less stressful then my younger years for sure!  (I’m not saying I haven’t stressed about it a little, but it doesn’t last long before reason takes hold of me)

As cheesy as it is…I also really enjoyed his morning text to me…"morning pretty."