More Lies!

The therapist responded to me message; where I asked her if she told my husband that he isn’t an alcoholic and doesn’t need to go to rehab.

HER REPSONSE: 

I did not mention rehab or being an alcoholic. He had said that he hasn’t been drinking as much. We discussed strategies on stopping drinking in order to avoid cravings and temptation. The dangers of continuing drinking. Even discussing AA again. That was the bulk of the session.

If he had told me he was drinking everyday, I would have suggested rehab. It is a difficult situation I understand it’s frustrating, sometimes it’s a long road to surrender. A person can only recover if they themselves admit they have a problem, and if they want to stop. Only consequences can help them want to stop, or it has to come from them. Unfortunately people are not ready to stop will often be dishonest and hide it in order to continue.

If your feeling is he needs to go to rehab then we would need to have that discussion together. So I can help direct the conversation.

This morning when I went to get dressed for work; I saw the Vodka bottle had been removed. I say nothing, but when he comes into our room to get dressed…

This isn’t the first time he has changed vodka to water and it isn’t the first time he has told me that he did that to test himself, this time I wasn’t falling for it. So I told him that I didn’t believe him.

I think he saw my wedding ring next to his side of the bed. He was still wearing his when he dropped me off.

Before we left the flat, he asked if he can still live with me while he sorts out his ID and stuff. He said he will pay me rent. I said ok, I was just feeling numb and wondering how I was going to get through the day.

While driving to work he apologized… not sure he realizes that I am not accepting his apologies anymore.

I don’t see myself going back or forgiving him. I am done. I am a 35 year old, over weight, child-less, single women. I am allergic to animals (with fur and I don’t like cats), so I am not sure what I am going to adopt…maybe I will get a fish tank…so I will be the  – okay that would be weird….guess life is just going to be all about me now! My life is all going to be about… …