Hrmm….. harsh advice?

So, a couple of days ago I left a note on a Diarist’s diary. Someone that I’ve been reading/noting for YEARS, who was asking for dating advice.  I left her a note in response to her diary entry. And apparently, after that note, she removed me from her friend’s list, which was really kind of sad, seeing as the note wasn’t left with any intention to hurt at all. It was an honest opinion, meant to help her see a different perspective.

One of her annoyances about the date ( and my response to this was the reason she removed me), was this scenario..and I’d like to get your opinion on it, oh Open Diary land. 

Guy offered to buy her a drink..  she says "oh no don’t worry about it", but guy says " ok tell you what, you can get the next round".  And she was disappointed by this.  That he didn’t just buy all the drinks and dinner outright, and that he actually did let her buy the second round.

???

Now in my opinion, (and what I told her), was this:  That’s just silly.   He offered to pay, and you counter offered, and he accepted, and you feel disappointed that he accepted? 

That’s like playing a game, where you know all the rules, and the guy doesn’t, and you get upset that he’s not playing by the rules!   It’s just silly.   Plus we are not in fact, in 1950. It almost strikes me as reverse sexism to expect that the guy is going to pay and handle everything.  To me, it seems that it should be somewhat equal.  Sure I’ve let guys buy me drinks…. but I’ve also bought them drinks in return. To be disappointed that the man isn’t paying for everything outright seems selfish ( I did not in fact put the selfish bit in the note).   I simply said that she was playing a game that the guy doesn’t know the rules to. And that it is also possible that he’s been burned in the past by girls who want to only use him for free drinks and food…  

Anyways.  I’m sad that a comment like that made her feel the need to remove me. Even when you’ve never met someone, when you read them for an extended period of time, you get to know them, and almost feel like a friend. You learn their personalities and quirks, and feelings about subjects.

But really was that comment harsh? It certainly wasn’t intended to be.