Getting it out of my noodle

A customer just came into my work today and I got triggered. Not because of a mask thing, race thing, or any number of woke issues. I was triggered because he was an older gentleman with a young wife or girlfriend. The mind went right to my situation. My ex leaving me for a man 20 years older than her, 10 years older than me. This man just bought a trailer worth over $7000 with a pass of a credit card. So money is the key, has to be.

Maybe, once upon a time, love was all that mattered, but those days have come and gone in my opinion and my experience. What makes it so much worse for me is this guy, my ex’s new husband, from everything I have learned was just a bounce around loser, who at his lowest supposedly “found God”. That and he was left some property, which he sold and essentially “bought” my ex’s love with. I have ran the situation through my mind over and over if this never happened. We would have got the owed taxes paid, this is her big grievance with me, I hadn’t paid the house taxes and we owed X amount. As I had told her, weeks before the break, they would be paid up with the income tax refund we were going to receive and low and behold they were. I wasn’t there at the time and half of the return was mine, but they were paid. By then, he had moved in and sold his land and “BOOM” she had money. More than we were ever able to save, we were raising children and such, so in an instant, she had thousands of dollars. I’m not discounting the love this guy has for her, she was easy to love, but I fail to see what else besides his money she sees in him.

Three large stimulus payments and several months of child tax payments and 2 huge tax returns (4 kids) and she is sitting pretty. Money in savings, trips, new crap in the house. Like an idiot, I walked away from $25,000 of the $35,000 of my share of the house, my house, because I was guilted about how the boy’s needed this and that and how the house needed to be fixed up. To late now, papers have been written and signed. I still haven’t been given my 10k though.

Is it fair of me to make such a blanket statement of women? No, I do believe there are those who live through good and bad times together, but there are those who are just motivated by money. Maybe the writing was on the wall when her mother married a well off Native American man who had a very successful cigarette business. The new house she got, the modern appliances, and the furniture and new leased vehicle every year. Then one day, he got sick and put the business in his children’s name and I want to say it took all of a week for her to kick his ass out. I know, me and my brother in law had to come and change all the locks.

I just thought my ex was different. She would go for hours bitching about how my mother in law was. How ever since her father died, mom would just use people and how there was no love involved although it was said. How stupid I was, how stupid I am still.

I read in the news today about Shimon Hayut, who they call the Tinder Swindler. There’s a documentary on Netflix. He would, obviously, get these beautiful women to date him. He would, for a time, wine and dine them in fancy restaurants,  hotels, and vacations. They fell for it every time. He would tell them he was some type of diamond mogul. Then eventually he would get them to open up credit accounts or straight ask them for money, you know because they “loved” him for his heart, not his money. All told, he walked away with millions from them all. From what I can find, he’s pretty ordinary looking and definately, IMHO, way out their league, but he’s a diamond mogul and they are just the salt of the earth types of men all women want. Right?

I know, I am one of the million “plain looking” hard luck fellows that believe ourselves to be the “good guy” women always seem to say can’t be found. Yet, we are bad ones because we didn’t get born into money or the right family, weren’t smart enough to be lawyers or doctors, or good looking enough to be actors or models. Oh, and because some of us aren’t over attracted to certain types of women. So I think I just called out the hypocrisy of us types of guys. Maybe we deserve to be walked over and left for a richer ugly guy.

So yeah, I unfortunately judged this old guy and his young, out of his league lady, who spent thousands with out a blink of his eye and then got into his $50,000 Dodge truck and hitched up his trailer to tote around his 2 side by sides to take to his “vacation” home. Meanwhile, there’s a man out there, king of plain looking, who installs dry wall for a contractor, that would die for this girl, who one day left him for “greener” pastures.

Ok, I am still bitter…..