Weekend Recap and State of Friendships

Friday was the Bite of Seattle after I went to a after-work social with coworkers. TGamer and TGem brought their son and were also accompanied by RLibra. I was able to incite and continue a conversation with RLibra despite not knowing him that well. Twin and I had a great time that night; Twin played with the baby some and bonded with TGem while I went to the beer garden with the other men. The topics ranged wildly, and TGamer asked the same questions of me as TGem asked of Twin. We came away from  meeting up with them feeling closer to them, or maybe a better way to word that is able to relate with them more…

Especially in contrast to later in the weekend…

Saturday was dully eventful. We bought cabinets for the house we tried to get in the neighborhood where Twin’s parents live – and obviously we aren’t closing on that house. This Saturday was our last opportunity to return all that stuff. Lunch and dinner were great; it was a good opportunity to catch up with family since LG and DLion weren’t in Manzanita when we were.

Sunday we met up with BGem and BSco for "Dark Knight Rises." I applied my date theology to meeting up with them, in that I wanted to have a chance to talk things out before awkwardly sitting beside them in the theater. It was awkward when we first sat down, but Twin did good to ask questions and keep conversation going. I wasn’t sure what to talk about. I had it in my mind that BGem seems to be somewhat lonely in terms of his friendships. I know through his upbringing he’s predisposed to having distant (or barely existing) friendships. In addition to that, they won’t be able to have biological children and I don’t know how much that is affecting them currently and still know there has to be some thought about that as they socialize with couples who have kids or will probably have them. I think this was reflected in the fact that they said they were busy, but never elaborated.

The way that went, it drew a lot of interest into their wedding and the reception. We don’t know much about BSco other than BGem and her compliment one another well. She obviously has friends or family that desire to have a bachelorette party for her.

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To close, I’m just going to update friendships we have… a state of the Gemini’s friendships:
TGamer/TGem – They are doing well, and we relate with them most strongly now. TGamer finally knows that I play Role-playing XBox games now so that seemed exciting, and that I will be "in charge" of maintaining a home with Twin. Twin and I came to the realization that they are probably the only couple that openly includes us in things they plan or the events of their life. They’re open with us. That’s refresing.
BGem/BSco: Things are a bit estranged. I’m sure there’s tension with the wedding, and operation. They’re in a transitional phase that is different from their prolonged security and slow courtship. The friendship might be a little distant for 6 months or so.
ETaurus/OLeo: Haven’t heard much from them. ETaurus is enjoying the MLS Season and trying to deny the fact he’s aging; OLeo is still working in the city and that perpetuates them living different professional lifestyles. I think they keep to themselves as the whole break-up/getting back together/marraige thing is mysterious. Its the elephant in the room I’m sure.
CapChef/SagChef: Still remember having a blast with them. CapChef just started at a new restaurant. Things are always free and easy with them and we include them in things where its possible.
LMP/GAries – Last, but not least (I suppose). That situation is still feeling itself out. There hasn’t been communication since I tried to invite them for my birthday thing. It was posted on Friday that they went with GAries friends to her parents cabin near Friday Harbor. Twin and I talked about this friendship, and thought that things may be awkward with them because GAries wants what we have: Stability, Living together, possibility of children in the near future… oh, and an open communication, progressive relationship. They may have bullishly defined us as being kids (younger than them, by 1-2 years, so they said it to empower them/put us down). Twin said, "We thought they’d break-up, but instead they’re getting married." I pointed out, "It doesn’t mean they still won’t split. Divorce runs in both of their families." It just seems pretty obvious to both of us that the fire (Aries) is boiling the water (Pisces) a bit. Just a thought – but maybe LMP proposed out of expectation, pressure and concern for his own well being. He gets to live an elevated lifestyle because of financial success GAries’ parents have had (Which LMP’s dad seems like he was a loafer who abused substances, while his mom has become successful within Microsoft and found financial security – I guess I know more about LMP than I let on). We will invite them for our housewarming, I hope they show up… but if they don’t, I think Twin and I will be letting that friendship fall away (sadly, because we did include them in our wedding party).