Kitchen Modelling and Old Paper Diaries
We put in a bid on that house and it was accepted by HUD, so that sent us into the 48 hour period where we needed to get a pre-qualification. Luckily, Twin put together a two-pronged campaign to get funding from either BECU or Wells Fargo. BECU for being a credit union was actually pretty terrible with their service on the part of the loan processor. The frustration they caused Twin let us settle on Wells Fargo. With that conclusion, the evening settled down and we signed some papers and so the closing process starts today if not a day or two from now.
After taking a trip to IKEA and Home Depot, we’ve learned that choosing countertop is the hardest thing for us. We both wanted berber carpets for the bedrooms and vinyl for the rest of the house. The guy at Home Depot in the flooring section was very helpful and so we’ll opt for stick’em type vinyl planking instead of rolls or click-in. We’ve always loved IKEA’s cabinetry and the slow-stop technology is awesome. Countertop is a problem though. Terrazzo in the form of pre-made Vetrazzo is beautiful, has a 40 year warranty, 80% recycled content (glass) but expensive. A little less expensive is Eco countertops, 75% recycled and has more color options. It seems the biggest part of a kitchen modeling/remodeling budget is countertops.
Paint colors are somewhat disputed, only the saturation more than the colors themselves. The house will be Greens, Browns, and Yellows… which are our Feng Shui colors except white will probably appear in a lot of places.
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Twin is ready to start moving, and wanted to go through some stuff so we have less to move. We don’t have a ton as it is – two bedrooms will be empty and the living area sparse – but we don’t hang onto a lot of junk. I think the biggest thing to get rid of is old books, textbooks. I have some old journals that I should throw out. I may opt to summarize events to gain an overall timeline of events. I also have a book full of rhymes or poems that need to be retyped I think. I’m still not certain if I’ll do anything other than throw them away.
My past largely angers me. I was so lonely that I spent time and words convincing myself I needed this particular girl to take interest in me romantically or over-estimate how important I was to someone. It was a waste of time because the underlying issue – my home life – wasn’t changing. My "friends" also grew more and more distant. I’m not interested in reading about my old girlfriends. I would just like to note when epiphanies I had about my personality occured and what was going on in the relationship with my parents.
There is also some additional attachment because the disappearance of ITW erased a lot of previously written stuff.
We’ll see how that plays out…
I’m curious to know what anyone else does with old diary/journal entries, if they help you in any way and if you’d have a hard time deleting them. I’d like to see what’s popular and maybe see what is most logical to do going forward for me.
Well, I’ve written in OD for 10 years and occasionally go back to very old entries to reminisce, see what I’ve learned from those situations, what I’d do differently. Sometimes it’s like an out of body experience because I feel like that person isn’t even me anymore, but as I read more and more I start to integrate my past experiences with my current ones and I feel like more of a complete person.We shouldn’t forget the past even if we don’t like it or agree with it.
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I dont know if you have seen my entries, but I have old journals from 1995, when I was in college and I’ve started writing them in here. I still cant part with them… and some of them are painful memories too. :/ I’d say hide them away so that one day your kids or grandkids will find them. 🙂
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Exciting! Congratulations to you two on your future move!! 🙂 I keep all my old diaries. Especially paper ones (but my online diaries too…I’ve had at least six ODs…maybe more…I have three currently active, but I have saved copies of all the others). I actually plan on donating my old diaries to a historical society when I get older (I hope to do it before I die, but if something unexpected happens, I’ve made my wish to donate my diaries known to my family). Future historians are going to have are fewer resources than present-day historians do, due to the lack of written documents in our electronic age. Yes, of course, some electronic sources will survive…but not many. And the question arises…will we have technological then that will be backwards compatible with what we have now? I mean…think of floppy discs. Dude…I have SO MUCH information saved on floppy discs that I have no way of accessing! I know…I need to get a freakin’ A Drive, but I haven’t yet. Technology changes so rapidly though… There’s just no way to know if in two or three decades what we’ll have access to…
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My senior tutorial in history was partially based on the private diaries of an ordinary Kansas woman named Martha Farnsworth. She left several decades worth of diaries to the Kansas State Historical Society and they are FASCINATING! Just to see what a woman at the turn of the 20th century was thinking…what her day to day life was full of…what issues concerned her…what were her relationshipslike… After reading her diaries, I really wish I could have met her. She was an exceptional lady. Some day…20 or 50 or maybe even a 100 years after I die…I want a young historian to read through my diaries and get an idea about what a woman of this era thought was important. And whoever reads my diaries will get a particularly interesting view, because of course I’m mentally ill and I make no secret of that in my diaries…so they’ll be faced with many interesting issues based on that alone. They’ll learn a lil’ about pop culture. A lil’ about “significant” events of the times. A lil’ about everyday life. I’ll be happy to help create the next historical narrative. An ordinary woman inspired some extraordinary academic research from me.
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I hope to do that for the next generation of historians. We may not like our personal pasts…believe me, there are some DAMNING things in my diaries…somethings that I would rather have BURNT than read… But the truth of the human experience, all of it…the good and the bad…should be shared with future generations. If for no other reasons than to allow them to see…a 100 years later, maybe…that we really aren’t so different at all. We all cry the same. We all bleed the same. We all have a story…and it’s worth being told.
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I have to tell you it seems like these last few months the people i know are moving or in the process of. I think it’s pretty cool that you both are in the planning stages of how your new home will look and feel like. good luck with it all.
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RYN: I’m not sure I actually agree with that… The hardest part of the long distance for me is the physical part. I don’t ever feel like there’s ever any “distance” between Joey and I emotionally. We talk daily. He is very much a daily presence in my life emotionally and mentally. But the lack of physical contact…that’s what hurts. Sometimes I just want to be able to touch him…just to know he’s there… That’s when I feel like he’s far away…when I can’t just hold his hand or give him a hug…
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I’ve deleted every diary that I’ve had except for one before this one.. Why? Because I’ve grown. I’m not the same. Looking back on the sadness and pain that I lived through angers me. I get angry at myself & angry at the situations I’ve been put into. I don’t want the anger. I want to move forward and leave it all behind. Congratulations on the house 🙂
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Congrats on the house! I know how exciting and crazy it can be. We waiting 5 months on a short sale, and now are 12 days away from closing. And while the whole thing has a possibility of falling through its been awesome to think about what it could be like, pricing things out, planning what we are going to do. We are going trhough Wells as well. Hope everything goes smooth for you guys.
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