Meet the Parents

     And here I thought my spring break would be boring. I called my mother last night and asked her if Mike could come to our house over break. She was pretty cool about it and OK’d the idea fairly immediately. I like the idea of seeing him over break but I also have an ulterior motive, as bad as that sounds. I’m a pretty insightful person when it comes to other people, but when it comes to people I like, I have no intuition about their true character whatsoever. My mom, however, has been pretty on target with her evaluations of people and I really want to kow what she thinks of Mike. I know that he’s not using me for sex at this point; he would’ve been gone already if that was the case. I want to make sure that he’s a solid guy and I’m too close to the situation to make an accurate assessment. So I’m having my mother and my sister meet him to tell me what they honestly think.

    Mike was kind of peeved I think, when I told him that he could only come up Thursday-Sunday instead of Monday-Sunday. He had brought it up at IHOP that he had wanted to come down to LI with me on Monday and I said I’d ask my mother. I knew she wouldn’t approve because that means it’s an extra person in the house all week. Also, I haven’t seen my family since January and I need some quality time with them. Mike lives at home and sees his family every day; he doesn’t understand what it’s like to be away for almost nine months out of the year. So I just told Mike that John would be home for part of that week and that my mom didn’t want five people in the house. And he mentioned (twice) "But I thought you said I was coming down with you on Monday?" Um, no, I said I’d ask my mother. But whatever, not a huge deal.

   I spoke to my dad later that night (mom had already told him what was going on) and he seemed happy about it, which is good. After all, Mike and I are 24 and 22, respectively, so it shouldn’t be a huge deal anyway. He offered to take Mike and I out for sushi which will be good beacuse Mike won’t be thrown into the chaos that is my family immediately upon arriving in LI. Also, John won’t be there, which is a double edged sword. I’m sorry I won’t get to hang out with my brother (because I do miss him terribly), but on the other hand he can get really hyper and really crazy. I love him, but sometimes it’s a lot to deal with when you first meet him. Rebecca will be home so I was hoping Becca, Jeff, Mike and I could go out to a bar nearby and hang out for a night so Mike isn’t totally bored out of his mind. Mike’s also taking me into New York City to meet his best friend Adam, and Adam’s girlfriend, who’s visiting Adam that weekend as well.

    I’m looking forward to hanging out with Mike over break but I’m terrified my family won’t like him. My sister once had a boyfriend, this guy named Keith, and my entire family hated him because he was an ignorant townie who didn’t like us. He wasn’t very close to his family, and couldn’t understand why Becca was so close to hers, and it caused a lot of problems. Also, we constantly made fun of him, which in retrospect, must’ve put Becca in an awkward position.

    I’m not saying Mike is anything like Keith…Mike is a townie, but he grew up in L:A for fourteen years, so he’s not a complete townie :oP. He’s not as close to his family as I am to mine (then again few people are) but he doesn’t resent my closeness with my family, the way Keith did. I’m just worried my family will see something in him that I don’t and they’ll end up hating him and we’ll end up breaking it off. And yes, I know I’m getting ahead of myself but I really really like this guy. He treats me well 95% of the time, he’s funny, he’s Jewish (not a big deal to me, but it is to my parents), he’s well-educated, he’s bright. he’s motivated, he LIKES ME (gasp!!)….I just want everything to go OK…