Because I’m still in love with you…

This is the theme song for this entry: Harvest Moon by Neil Young. But it is not about my sweet husband; this entry is about my Mom.

This week my sister and I got the recommendations from the team currently taking care of Mom at the phone-conference Care Plan Meeting.  As expected, we were told that we have to find a new place for Mom to live.

Sis and I are now working as a team with regards to Mom, which has not always been the case.  We have both always had different ideas as to the best plan throughout each of the necessary transitions as Mom’s dementia advanced, but we also recognized that neither of us wants to do any of this alone.  Next will be a significant step to move Mom into a full care facility, and I believe that I am the person who should both find the right place for Mom to move, and also I feel that I am the person who must convince my sister that this is the next correct step.

Even though sis was in on the phone-call meeting.

Layers of things I could clutter this space up with to explain all of the above, but I will not.  I just wanted to post somewhere (and thank you Open Diary for giving me the perfect place) about how sad I am – how frustrated I am – how I sure do wish this damn Covid were not complicating everything – how much I truly love my Mom who was the best Mom in the world…

and how much I love my sister, who shares this pain with me.

 

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February 12, 2021

I love that song. <3

February 12, 2021

This brought back so many memories of my sister and I dealing with my own mother’s deteriorating health.  It’s sad and so hard to watch someone you love fading away.

My mom passed ten years ago and still I grieve.  I have no advice or words of wisdom to offer, only warm thoughts and wishes for you all.

March 4, 2021

@wren thank you

March 9, 2021

@wren Thank you. I know you know how hard this is. I also have lasting grief from my Dad’s dying of cancer. It was many years ago, but grief still rears it’s ugly head from time to time.

February 21, 2021

I’m so sorry that you are having to endure this painful part of your life journey during this ridiculous, unbelievable time.  You and your sister will do what you have to, because you were both raised by your Mom!  I am sending you all my white light this morning for the difficult week ahead.  Make certain to take time for yourself, be kind to others in the family, as no-one really knows exactly how to do this.  There is no right or wrong, only what you collectively think is best.  Be Well 13…

March 4, 2021

@odfordummies thank you.  I am sitting down right now to emote a bit.  I swear I am trying to “be kind to others in the family…” and the rest of what you said. exactly.