My job is ending, and I feel relieved

So the couple I work for wanted to talk to me on my first day back on the job since the honeymoon (I was sick this week and missed a day).

They found a Nannyshare that they like and they will start with that in 4 weeks.

My very first thought was, I feel so relieved!

I had another rough, stressful day with their baby, doing their crazy methods which change every single day, and felt sorry for the little baby since this method can only predictably make his life harder.

I spend all this time trying to help him go to sleep while he cries his head off because he’s so exhausted and has no idea how to go to sleep on his own. It is exhausting and takes so much effort, and I have been trying to grin and bear it all this time, because I need the job, but I was really praying for help.

So I couldnt exactly show my relief when they told me, I was a bit stunned by it. And they said they hoped it wasnt a big surprise. I dont exactly know what they meant by that – of course it was a big surprise, they never told me they were looking to replace me. All they told me was that they were going to find childcare for a couple days a week that was less expensive to cut their costs. They didnt say my job might be ending and let me know I could look for a new job while they were looking for a new situation. Yeah, it was a surprise because you two werent honest with me.

But on the upside, they are giving me 4 weeks to find a new job, assured me that they will give me a glowing recommendation, and do whatever they can to help me find a new job, and said the only reason they are letting me go is that I’m too expensive for them. they had tried to keep me to do a nannyshare to cut costs, but hadnt found a good fit with another family when this other available nannyshare had an opening. and they said they had a very hard time finding someone nearly as good as me, there were a lot of people who werent good enough.

they are also giving me all my vacation and sick time cashed out at the end of my job, and said they will be very flexible if I find a new job sooner than their end date.

So I have a whole lot to be grateful for.

My plan now is to write lists:

1. What I did not like about this job and why.

i.e.: no edible food in the house, no outings other than walk in stroller, no tv at all (for me), frustrating methods of childrearing that were not compatible with my own methods (I’ve been doing this for 30 years, I’ve earned my right to have opinions and methods).

2. What I did like about this job and why.

i.e.: Nice (sort of) neighborhood for walks with lots of houses with porches, great pay, getting to go on the computer and internet during work.

3. What makes me thrive at work?

i.e.: Lots of appreciation! Great pay.

4. What I need and want at work.

i.e.: great food to eat, easy and friendly family to work for, benefits.

5. What I’ve got to give.

i.e.: I’ve got 30 years of fabulous experience to share, I want someone who really appreciates that and wants to hear my expertise. I’ve been so happy in the past few years with families who do consult with me. I’m incredibly positive and well-grounded so I know how to help myself stay calm when I’m working (when that is very hard to do) and how to soothe children. I’m prompt, reliable, friendly, and professional.

These are just a few examples under each heading to give you an idea of what I’m thinking under each topic.

I always find, or at least I think so, that it helps to do this kind of journalling to clear any mental blocks I might have and open doors to new work.

I also find that setting a spiritual goal, such as I did when I sought a nanny job and found the job with the twins, is very helpful in speeding a job to me. At that time, I was recovering from a trauma, so I prayed that I would find a job that was very Healing on a lot of levels. It was very healing for me, financially, physically, spiritually, etc, and I found the job within a few days of setting that goal. 🙂

So here’s to a quick and easy job hunt!