Leave My Home

I hate, hate, hate having my peaceful home invaded. I thought the painting would be done in the three days they said it would be. But, of course, when does work ever get done when they promise it will be done?
The walls and woodwork that have been painted look marvelous and I admit that I’m extremely pleased with the work done. The fact that they do wonderful prep work, including runners on all floors, plastic wrapped light fixtures, areas taped off, etc does add time and I should be very grateful that they are so meticulous. I love how they sweep up and clean up when they’re ready to leave for the day but I so want them to be just gone.

The other part that seems to be bothering me and it’s something I’ve noticed in the last few months even before the painting work is that I don’t seem to be able to handle clutter any more. I’m not sure how that happened? I’ve always been easy–going of nature and I could tolerate clutter for awhile. Then I’d get in there and do a major clean-up and put everything away and enjoy the result. After awhile, the clutter would gradually accumulate and the pattern of me cleaning up continued. Clutter didn’t bother me. Dirty bothered me.

Now I know that these are somewhat extreme conditions having your home taken over with workers and all the goes into it but I can’t stop getting all antsy as I look at the rooms filled with “stuff” that belongs in other areas, paintings, area rugs, doo-dads, and everything else that goes into decorating a home.

I’ve been “invaded” before by workers and haven’t felt this kind of angst towards the clutter as I do now. I’m wondering if people change their basic patterns late in life. I always believed that by the time I or anyone was older, we were pretty set in our ways and habits. So I’m really confused as to why I’m feeling this way. It’s driving me nuts until I can get in there and straighten everything up. I can see Terry looking at me, wondering “who is this woman?” And I surely don’t know who she is!
I welcome any input here.

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December 4, 2008

Yes, we change. Look at Marion B’s house. It’s changing and evolving as I post it here. I have to go back and take more pictures to catch the moment. Why not go stay a few days in a hotel. Stay two days on the Queen Mary. 🙂

December 4, 2008

Aloha… Perhaps you might consider surrendering to your (temporary) circumstances… Take ten deep breaths… Go for a long walk… Get a book from the library… find a quiet place to sit and read for a while… Find a quiet place to have a conversation with David… ask him how Emily is doing… Then give thanks that you will once again have a peaceful home in a few days…Me ke aloha…

Yes, we change. We go from “That would look pretty in …” to “I’ve got to get rid of …” I believe that it is growth – eliminating clutter (stuff) and embracing clarity.

being the holidays is part of it im sure. who needs this when we want to decorate or bake or just enjoy the peace of the season? go away for a night. we did when our bathroom was torn asunder. we went o/night for four nights. i couldn’t stand it.

December 4, 2008

I know exactly how you feel when our house was torn up from May to November, with spare rooms filled with stuff that belonged in other rooms. I was going quietly crazy about it. I thank the Lord my cousins decided to come for a visit and that spurred my beloved into getting things put away and now my mental health is much improved.

December 4, 2008

By nature, women are nesters and we want our nest neat and tidy with everything in our place. By nature men are oinkers and couldn’t care less where anything is put and/or kept. You’re feelings are natural. Your home has been invaded by others who promised you a time frame only to have it not happen. I hope the workers finish the job quickly so you can find peace again. Hang in there as best you are able.

December 4, 2008

I like Georgette’s idea of a small getaway!

I’ve always been a neat freak so I’m no help. 🙂 I love all the suggestions by your friends here for finding temporary peace away from the clutter. Tight hugs,

You were never far from my thoughts last week and never out of my heart. I love you,

December 6, 2008

I am the same way. Clutter used to be a way of life for me and now I can’t stand it. I think one reason I am like this is because I have learned (the hard way) that material things don’t matter and having a bunch of things cluttering up my life is annoying now.