people
you ever wonder why certain people are in your life sometimes. God is so smart and sees so much further ahead than we do. some people are in our life for a particular part, situation, event, or something. like the situation i just went thru. God knew it was coming, so months if not years ago he put people in my life that were gonna help me thru that situation. i mean even certain relationships began to get stronger just in time for them to help. its crazy.
so my advice is this. dont wonder why they’re there. dont get upset if one mintue your close and then the next your not or vice versa. you dont hav to talk to someone everyday or see them often to be friends or to be there friend. but what you are suppose to do is be there when they need you. i dont mean drop your life and everything your doin. but just be that "friend" they can call on when they need to, because God placed you in each others life for a reason (even if its only for a particular situation, moment, or event).
then there are the people that come into our life, to test us, help us realize who our real friends are, push us closer to God, and hurt us. yes, i said hurt us. because for some reason we just wont get things together until we are put in a position where we hav no other choice. these people are not meant to be in your life or stay in your life. they’re just there because you wont listen. and we shouldnt be mad at these people, they’re only doin their job. if you wanna be mad at someone be mad at yourself. for not listening to God’s leading in the first place.
we also need to understand that People are just as human as you are. they are gonna mess up, make mistakes, disappoint you, fail, fall, and so on. so all those expectations you hav for people, DONT! because they’ll never be able to meet them all. dont expect anything from anyone else you cant expect from yourself or they cant expect back from you. but still kno that they are not you or like you, so they may not meet those expectations either. better yet, try to hav no expectations. and if your gonna hav an expectation, then expect them to be human.
i just wanna thank ALL the people God has brought into my life and across my path. each of you hav served your purpose and i thank you. because it is due to each of you- no matter what your role- that i am here and the man i am. i would call out certain people who hav been more impactful then others, but i dont wanna offend or hurt anyone. most of you already kno tho, cuz i’m pretty good at letting people kno.
this last statement must be the psych major in me coming out…
i’ll leave you with this. examine the people in your life everyday. because either your pulling them in your direction (good or bad) or they’re pulling you in theirs. also evaluate them, for their importance in your life. we as human beings hav a tendency to make people important who arent suppose to be. if your not sure then Pray and ask God to help you. if your not a prayerer then, make a list of the things you like, dislike, want, and need in a relationship (a friendship is a type of relationship) and what can be expected from you. then wiegh the people in your life (as well as yourself) against that list. above all else remember, "to love thy nieghbor as thyself" and everything should work out beautifully.