I don’t want to think like him
Once again, I found you.
I first started my diary back in 2005 – when the teenage years of my life were getting the best of me. And now as an adult, maybe it was comforting to turn back to this than to find a new place to store my thoughts.
A lot has happened since that time when I used to write to now. I’m married, year five, no kids.
I’ve watched myself change and grow over the past 5 years of marriage. I’ve learned to stand up for myself and step aside when needed.
This year, I started to notice the changes in me, some….some I picked up from him, from his words, his behavior and his thoughts. I do not like that. I do not want to think like him.
Why?
Because I am starting to see some parts of him in a different light now, I see what I don’t like.
Does this happen to other married couples? Do they start to ‘not like’ things the other person does or he/she becomes? Is this normal?
I have been through that and sadly it led to divorce. I guess you have to decide if the things you’re not liking about him are significant enough that you can’t deal with them or not. Can you live with what you see that you don’t like? Or does it bother you so much you feel like you want out? With me it was stuff that I knew I couldn’t go day to day seeing or hearing. I even tried marriage counseling but it was just too much for me. Ask yourself those questions and if you feel it’s important maybe try marriage counseling yourself.
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It does and can happen, I think – we learn a lot about people as time goes by, that we don’t see or overlook earlier in relationships. I hope it works out for you.
Welcome back to OD!
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Random reader here…..I saw all those things in my ex and then he became toxic and I left….I am so much happier now….
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