Cheers to change?

My bf asked me to move in with him a few days ago when my apt lease ends (July).  Its very soon but then again, our entire relationship is very sudden and has been moving very quickly.
We haven’t even known each other for a year yet and believe it or not, I am one of those sticklers in regards to:  move slowly.  Eep!!!
However, I think Coronavirus assisted in us getting quarantined mostly together and becoming very close over a short period of time.

I am overanalyzing everything including bad past relationships, the terrible reaction my parents will have, the uncertainties of the future.
My bestie seems to think that love will conquer all but I’m just so hesitant.

I’m barely making it on my own without a roommate so even on a primitive level, moving in with anyone is a solid financial move.
I know that’s not what relationships are about but like I said, I am over analyzing everyyyyyything.  He has a sweet daughter but I’ve never lived with a kid before; she’s 9.  She’s also best friends with one of my cats.  It’s adorable.

Do I love him?  Yes.  I spend more time at his house and with him than I do by myself and that’s REALLY indicative of my love.  Is my life better with him in it, yes, does he make me want to be a better person, yes, does he make me laugh and feel safe, yes, does his kiss transport me into the vacuum of space, yes.  Will I stand by him if he needs it, yes.
So, I love him.  But in my opinion, love doesn’t always conquer all.

I’m scared.
But there’s a part of me that is so, so excited for what might be in store.

 

-INMATE-

 

 

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kat
April 21, 2020

Would you feel better with a ring on your finger.  That was you know he is serious

April 21, 2020

@kaliko I am pretty certain that would scare me more lol.

April 21, 2020

I met my husband online in June, in person in July, started officially dating in August and moved in together in January. Then we were together for 9.5 years before we got married and have now been married for almost 8 years. One of hubby’s cousins got married 3 months after she met her now-husband. There are just as many success stories as there are sad endings. What matters is that you do what is best and right for you and that you have honest and forthright communication with your partner. Since you feel it’s going fast so far, talk it out – don’t be afraid to discuss how it could end. That’s not unlucky, it’s pragmatic and mature.

April 21, 2020

@ammitu

Thank you so much for your note. It made me feel a lot better about my situation. I will remain positive 🙂