ugh

I want to be alone tonight. I guess this is one of the few times i’m glad I live by myself. It has been a very up and down weekend to say the least. friday night is the flashpoint, so i’ll start there. It’s Sophia’s 22nd birthday, so all her closest friends are there (including several ex’s), and we all go out to dinner. I have to leave after to go bring my car back and then bus it back downtown to meet up with everyone. So they decided to go to this random bar, i had never even heard of it. Real small place, locals only. So everyone is there, drinking and mingling, and seemingly all having a good time. Then the shit starts hitting the fan, and I’m still not really sure why/how. This requires some backstory….

The short version… Soph was engaged when she was 18 or 19, and has never gotten over the breakup. She’s going back to Austria (where this guy is) this summer, to get closure once and for all. She has been with her current bf for about 6 months. He’s kinda a douche, but basically a good guy. She’s pretty much insane. Lives completely in a fantasy world, totally disconnected from reality and real people. Backstory #2, she had a huge falling out with her friend Megan (who is equally insane) a few months ago, which was massive and ridiculous. OK….

So, her current bf, and her ex (who she is still really close with), go outside to talk. I’m not sure exactly what had been happening right before this cuz i was over at the jukebox and the bathroom. Anyways, I wander back over to the bar, and Soph tells me to go outside (as in, kicking me out). I’m confused, but I wander out and start talking to bf and ex. Ex-fiancee comes up, but literally as a tangent to something else, and only for a moment (very important: I did not bring it up, her ex did). Next thing I know Soph is crying in my arms. So I’m comforting her, and she’s really not explaining what’s wrong. Then she breaks away and leaves to go home. So I grab her bf and tell him to take her home, and that was that. People trickled out for the rest of the night. Most of them were staying at Soph’s. I shared a cab back, and went to bed.

The next morning i’m up at 10 to go play paintball, and I get a text message from Soph “Just tell me one thing, what did I ever do to you?”. WHAT?!? She then blames me for telling her bf about the ex-fiancee, and basically tells me I’ve destroyed her relationship. Saying how I took advantage of her trust and all this other shit.

Rather than re-hash all the messages, basically we have her angry and me very very confused. Also, she didn’t kick me out, apparently “i was making megs uncomfortable”. That’s what really pushed me over the limit. The last time Megan was here, which was also the first time i had ever met her, she got way too drunk, soph ditched her, and I took care of her all night. She chose to come back to my place not Soph’s, and slept over here. We’re on good terms. And let’s be clear, Megan is not my type, so its not like I was drunkenly hitting on her or any shit like that. This is a girl that Soph has been talking so much shit about after their falling out, and now its me the big bad guy making “megs” uncomfortable.

I turned off my phone after her last message, and haven’t talked to her since. I’ve been away all weekend actually, since I went camping after paintball, then came back today and went right out to the beach. But I’m pissed. I’m mad at her for trying to scapegoat me, after I’ve been such a good friend to her through all her drama and issues. I’m not gonna back down and apologize, because I did not do anything wrong. If I apologize, to her it’s like admitting that I intentionally wrecked her relationship. So that ain’t happening, cuz that’s not what happened. So i’m not sure what’s gonna happen next. All I know is that i’m not a happy camper right now.