Here We Go…..

 Well, Ian does have an UTI. This is his second one over 2 months time and that is very concerning. It’s timing was pretty perfect though. The morning of his check up I woke up to start getting us ready and noticed that his diaper was pretty rank. But I chalked it up to the fact that he fell asleep on the way home from Disneyland the prior night and I didn’t change him when we got home so he was in that particular diaper longer than he would be otherwise. I have taken to letting him shower with me to save time and to know that he is safe. I put a few toys on the shower floor and he sits there and plays. Well he peed while we were in the shower and I was more than able to smell it over the scent of my shampoo. So I figured there was something wrong and mentioned it to the nurse when she came in to take his stats. 

And of course he did not pee while we were in the office so I had to go back with the sample. I noticed that there were particles floating in his urine so while I was waiting for them to run the initial test, I googled what it was and it wasn’t anything I wanted to read. But the doctor said their test strip did not show any bacteria to cause an infection, but one area was flagged as like a warning so she was going to still have the lab run tests, but she wasn’t going to give me any antibiotics. I asked her about the particles and she told me not to google, and that little boys can have discharge just like little girls can. Way different than what I read. We didn’t find out until yesterday morning, and over the course of a couple of days the smell got so bad that Scott changed his diaper in the middle of the night because he couldn’t take it. 

To sum it all up, he is on the strongest dose of antibiotics that he can take. After 14 days we have to take him back to get another urine sample done, and we will be having another ultrasound done of his kidney. The doctor told me that she will likely put him on a low dose daily antibiotic to prevent infection, and that dependent upon the ultrasound, we will probably have to do all the bad tests again. So, here we are only 13 days in and I don’t have the patience for all the waiting and possibilities. On average, only 6% of boys will get an UTI in their childhood, and my 9 month old has already had 2.

I feel like I should mention that Father’s Day was a success because Scott said he had a good day. About a month ago I asked him what his perfect day would entail, and did my very best to make sure that I fulfilled everything he said, because that is what I would have liked for him to do for me on Mother’s Day. Maybe next year? I got him a guitar pick key chain with the kids’ names engraved into it, a collage of pictures of them together, and a ring he wanted awhile back with one of our favorite bible verses engraved into it. The kids made a plaque for him that had their little hand prints in paint on them. 

And we are moving. August 1st is what the date should be. Basically, Scott’s mom is back from South Carolina. She proved to be too much for the family out there to take care of, and it really is just confirmation that she has to be in a home for professional care 24/7. Now that she is home, my father in law just can not afford the care. Scott’s half sister had been living with him, jobless and living much like Scott’s mom, but he kicked her out last weekend after a year of supporting her drinking habits. Also, Scott’s friend who does our tattoos has been renting a room from him for the past few months, but he is going to get back together with his wife, so he will be moving out as well. Freeing up three bedrooms and my father in law saying he needs our help. I am not entirely sure of all the details because other than passing conversation, Scott has not yet talked to his dad about it yet. But overall it seems as though we will be giving him $800 a month to cover what he pays at the home, saving us about $500 a month when you factor in rent we currently pay and utilities. It’s appealing, but we have done this before and it’s pretty stressful. Not worse than our currently living situation, so I’ll take it. 

I am far more excited than Scott. The problem is when we did this last time, we were so cramped in our bedroom, and we felt claustrophobic. Scott and his dad also have a really good relationship, but he is worried that there will be problems because of this. My father in law is an early riser, very early. He’s up everyday without fail at 4:30. He doesn’t start work until 7 and it takes him 5 minutes to drive there. So Scott is really concerned that his schedule that often doesn’t get him waking up until 11 or after will evoke the kind of comments from his dad that he just hates. There are just as many positives as there are negatives, but I am choosing to only think of the positives and doing my best to point those out to Scott. He is going with him in a little bit to visit with his mom, and so he will be talking to him then and I will have more answers than speculation. 

My mom did not take it well. She really did her best to manipulate my words. It didn’t matter that I apologized many times, or that this really is nothing personal, she just had to be her typical self. My youngest brother asked me to help him look for apartments because my mom was just being ridiculous, and I feel so bad for him. I don’t want her to depend on him, the way she has depended upon me. There are 2 apartment complexes within a block of where we will be, and he really wants to move to one of those so that he can see Salem and Ian as much as possible, plus have an easy escape route if my mom becomes to much for him. 

So lots of things coming, but not sure how to deal with them all. My anxiety has been brutal. I’ve got to give it to God. Pray for me that it becomes real easy for me to do that.