marriage phobia

Before i go into my rant, i just want to say i did not come from a broken home, my parents just celebrated their 32nd wedding anniversay last februrary.

so i’m not sure what it is about marriage that scares the hell out of me, maybe its the finality of it. having that legal piece of paper, and hearing the words until death do us part that freak me out.

commiting to spending the rest of my life with that person, the fear of failing that scares me.

I used to think marriage was sacred ya know? that people take their vows seriously but i’ve just seen the opposite from friends and relatives who have been divorced multiple times and the effect it has on the kids involved to make me want to steer clear from it.

Then you look at the stats from this country alone we have a pretty high divorce rate and it just makes you wonder why so many ppl get married in the first place and if it was for the right reason.

i’ve seen alot people get caught up in spending a bunch of money on planning something that will only last one day, only to get divorced a couple of years down the road.

There is definitely a stigma against divorced folks, I dont know about you but i would never date a guy whose been married 2 or more times, i know that sounds shallow but something has to be up with that person. it cant always be the exes fault.

and I definitely cant stand to hear a guy talk bad about his ex wife, because the first thing i think is obviously she was good enough to marry, now u hate her?

I definitely get the urge to do the wedding thing when i see family or friends get married, of course getting the dress and all the little mundane details that are usually exciting for a bride would be fun to do but then i snap back to reality and realize marriage comes after the wedding lol.

I dont know if marriage is for me personally..so you wont be seeing any wedding announcements from me anytime soon. im good for now

*Miss_Shan84*

March 18, 2008

Marriage can be scary, but when you meet the one that you KNOW no matter what is the one, maybe it’s not that hard and it just feels like it’s the right thing to do. I don’t know cause I’ve never been married, but I guess that’s how it would feel if you knew that he was the right one, but I do agree that it’s scary and it’s a HUGE decision, although now a days it isn’t regarded as so.

Nobodies Girl

Marriage can be scary, believe me I am scared to death. And sad too. My big thought right now is, my dad was here to walk me down the isle the first time, and now that I finally have it right, he’s not here. And he’s the biggest person I want to share it with. Not my mom, my dad.

alexandra.

i sorta feel like writing about weddings now lol.but i understand what you’re saying.

swthrt elle

I’m w/you about dating a guy that’s been married twice before…kinda shows something. And it’s true about the marriage about the wedding…so let’s skip the marriage part, eh? Hehehe…j/k 🙂

~*MaMa_BeAr*~

yeah its hard when you see so many people getting divorced and so many people not taking it seriously. thats why its about finding the right person and actually sticking with it. I think so many people give up so easily because they know there is a way out. to me if you dont genuinely believe you think this perosn is worth giving your life to then dont do it. i think these days a lot of people get married because of the wedding. it’s fun!! then they realize afterwards oh yeah..there IS a marriage after. or they get married because they think it will make their relationshio better when in reality they just ruined it because they shouldnt have been together in the first place. I like your entries. they give me something to think about all the time haha.

NIKI B

March 19, 2008

I know. I always think about how I want a beautiful weddidng and I catch myself fantasizing about it from time to time, but then like you, I snap back in to reality. I just don’t think marriage is for me either.

ZiggyStardust

i know i made a stupid mistake and got married right after high school, then got pregnant with my son, then shortly after got divorced. I know I’m definately in no hurry to marry again, i know eventually i will, but i want to make damn sure this time. I’ve been with my b/f for over two years and getting married has just recently started coming up, i’m still in no rush. nothing wrong with being sur

*Punkin*

divorce is what worries me from getting married. I don’t know why so many people act like marriage is a joke and don’t take their vows seriously.

With fervor

March 20, 2008

aw. i understand. you do actually value it, so naturally you’re afraid of it, like anything that’s worth something. but it’s those who go running into it with nothing but smiles who are the ones who actually need to be scared, right? 🙂 ryn- thank you bunches!

Miss Adia

March 21, 2008

I think the divorce rate is high because so many people rush into marriage and then realize they were not the ones for each other.