Just get older and grumpier
My dad… bless his little heart… but my dad… old and grumpy is the first thing that comes to mind.
Oh, how times have changed. I used to be such a daddys girl, but I don’t know what’s happend. Our relationship is changing. He used to listen to me and help me make the right decisions in life. Now he interrupts me when I’m speaking and acts like he doesn’t hear me half the time. We talk for 10 or so minutes when before we would talk for 30. And this didn’t just start, it’s been changing for a while now.
I think it’s all about me growing up, getting older and him wanting to focus more on his own life and less about mine. He has a girlfriend now and I guess they’re pretty serious, but I am not the slightest bit fond of her. That’s beside the point though. As I’m getting older, dad cares less about what’s happening in my life. But somehow he still likes to treat me like a kid. Which I guess is normal for most parents. It seems like they never stop treating their kids like kids.
Just tonight we spoke for the first time in over week. I asked for the tenth time what his Thanksgiving plans are. Now that my sister is moved away, she’s not coming home for the holidays so I told dad he didn’t have to cook for just me and him, so I was going to Mark’s family’s dinner (where I’d rather be anyway, honestly). So just tonight I finally got an answer that he is going to his girlfriends family’s house, like I assumed, BUT now he said he wants to make a turkey dinner on Saturday after Thanksgiving. Well I’ve been planning for about 2 weeks now to take Mark to my moms house that day since he’s never been before and we’ll only be 1.5 hours away. Dad just tried to over power me and my plans and basically told me I better there. I stood up for myself and said no, I’m going to see my mom. He said, maybe you can see her for 2 hours and then come back in time for dinner… no, Mark’s never been before, I want to show him around too. Then he gave me this whole stupid shit like I was just doing it to make sure you had a turkey dinner, you know, the whole I’m doing it for you bull. And I said don’t do all that work for me bc he ALWAYS complains how much work it is which always piss’s me off because it’s once a freaking year. I told him, I’m having 3 dinners this year, that’s plenty, I’ll come see him but he doesn’t have to cook since I’m going to my moms anyways.
I hate having a split up family and what makes it even worse is that they don’t see eye to eye. My mom would never do that to me, she would say ok you should go see your father. Dad is selfish. He has no consideration for anyone else. He doesn’t even listen long enough for him to get where I’m coming from. It’s more annoying than hurtful. A girl never wants to see her dad as a typical man who doesn’t listen, but really, dad’s are typical men. It’s sad when you first realize it, but now I’m more annoyed than hurt. I’m over it. There’s no changing back now. He cares about his girlfriend more than me. I am sticking by my plan to see my mom. She appreciates it.
I don’t know if this entry made much since. I didn’t re-ready it. But I think I got my point accross.
