Oh the judging

I know I’m guilty of it myself, but this week I’m burned out on the judging and the arguing and the "my opinion is right and yours is wrong". I feel like it’s so much worse in groups of moms, too. Yes I have parenting hills to die on so to speak, but I don’t talk about them, let alone try to force them on someone else. I’m tired of the woman who acts like I’m poisoning my kid because she eats cream cheese sandwiches and who made a comment about starting Sam on french fries early because I said his first food was sweet potato fries (it’s sweet potato roasted in olive oil, hardly a fry). I’m tired of lying about what stores I shop at because only white trash dregs of society shop at those stores. Someone actually said they pay more for groceries because they pay for the EXPERIENCE. Really? It’s just another run of the mill chain grocery store selling the EXACT same food for 3 times the price. I’m tired of the friend who KNOWS I occasionally go to church and was raised in faith constantly talking about how ALL Christians are close minded, hateful, delusional robots who believe everything they’re told (this coming from someone so open minded he spent a good chunk of time mocking male on male sex and making racially inappropriate jokes at work Saturday).

I feel like the new way to bond is by judging groups of people different from you and it makes me feel dirty. Empathy, people, and think before you speak!

And OMG, totally not related, there’s a freaking stink bug staring me down right now!! Thanks to the non-winter we had last year the bug population is outlandish this summer and I’m SO OVER IT. I guess they’re not true stink bugs, it’s some pine tree dwelling related relative, but they’re everywhere. Before the weather got cold and rainy last week I’d say there were at least 15 or so hanging out on the front of the house (on the siding and window screens). After finding FOUR in the house one day I had Phil go spray all outside with Raid because I couldn’t handle it. I just tried to knock this one off the curtain into a bowl, but it refuses to fall and I’m too chicken to vacuum it up. Poor Riley has been traumatized by this summer, every time I turn around she’s screaming cricket or "stinky bug". There was picture of a beetle in one of her books next to the sleeping lions, so small I barely noticed it, and she yelled at the lions to watch out for the stinky bug lol. Why can’t we have normal house insects like ants or fruit flies? I’m down with those, not these giant leggy beasts.

I feel like someone is awake right now but I can’t tell for sure. I hope it’s Sam because Riley didn’t quiet down until close to 2 and the kid needs more than an hour long nap. She was mad I wouldn’t let her take Go Dog Go to bed because it has paper pages (and she could tear it to shreds). Phil decided he "gave up" this weekend because he had a rough week at work, then had the kids all weekend, and gave her whatever she wanted. I’ve paid the price today, thank you dear. We had meltdowns because 1) I said no Cheez Its for breakfast 2) I said no sprinkle donut at the grocery store (he gets her one eeeeevery time they go, I hate it) and 3) I said no Go Dog Go to bed (he let her have it last night). Our children would have a completely different reality if something were to happen to me! I guess Phil still hasn’t learned consistency is the best way to avoid meltdowns. I swear, you say no 5 million times and yes ONCE and all a toddler remembers is the one time you said yes.

I win! The bug crawled onto my Supernatural blanket so I wrapped it up and threw the blanket outside (sorry Sam and Dean). Phil can shake it out when he gets home. Also it was Sam who was awake. Not bad, that was almost 2 hours in the PnP. The kid is 6 months old and still takes one, if not both, naps in the swing, though he’s fine in the PnP overnight. Some people would be appalled by that, but Riley only napped on me until she was 8 months old so I’m cool with the swing!

We’re slowly starting to work on Riley’s big girl room. We bought her comforter and I started painting the bed my mom gave us. The biggest thing is going to be getting the room painted since she’ll sill be sleeping in there. It will have to be a quick paint job. As much as I don’t love licensed characters as a room theme her favorite color is purple and the sheets she picked out are Tangled (her favorite movie) so I see the room going that way. Hopefully tastefully! However the walls are going to be gray and her comforter is plain purple so hopefully she can grow with that. From there it will be time to finally do Sam’s room and get him into the crib, WAH. So many changes.

We decided if we don’t have a 3rd kid (which at this point I’m not seeing happening) we’re going to turn the now guest bedroom into a playroom. I’d really love for Riley to have a play kitchen and maybe some accessories for her baby dolls, but there’s no room in the living room or her bedroom right now. That and I could actually host play dates once in awhile. If we get really ambitious we may knock out the wall between the living room and the guest room so we could sit and do our thing and still watch them play.

I’m still fat as ever. I haven’t worked out or counted calories since the end of August when my supply took a vacation. I do feel a lot more energetic since starting the iron and after my first stupid period ended my supply came back somewhat. I need to make the commitment again. I gained back 4.5 lbs initially, but have lost 2 of those since without doing anything. I just know that won’t last and I don’t want to start gaining again.

This month is already going by fast, how has it been a week?? We have a fall crafting play date Wednesday, moms night out Thursday, a pumpkin carving party Saturday evening, I think next week the kids and I will go visit my family in Maine for a few days (I need help sewing one of Riley’s Christmas presents) and I have a house warming party that Saturday after work. I was also invited to a Halloween party the night of the 26th, we have kids’ trick or treat at a local farm that Saturday, and a Halloween play date on Halloween. It’s a pretty full month! Thursday is actually our anniversary so I’ll have to double check with Phil about me going out that night. We decided to do our celebration over the weekend (and by that I basically mean we might get take out) so I don’t know if he’ll care. Our budget is tight so we don’t really do anniversary gifts, is that a scroogey thing? We both need our rings resized, so maybe we can have that done. Mine haven’t fit since I was pregnant with Riley and his has always been a little loose. Next year will be 5 years, maybe we can actually go out with the kids being older and all.

And now Riley is up and yelling "get me down please" lol. Real quick:

6 months!

Making out with chicks

Riley’s artistic expression
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And first night of food!