How can I help

OK, my dau is getting married in a month. My SIL saw to it that she had that bridal registry done, and rode her and rode her to do more and more. Guess what didn’t get done? The invitations.

Talk about priorities being turned around. I am so frustrated I could scream. I talk to dau today and she says they might get them done tonight. I said you do everything in your power to take them to the post office tonight! People don’t even know about it and they will get an invite this late in the game? This is a big deal!

And the other thing that is a big deal is that my same SIL decided that since everyone is giong to be there for the wedding that they will have the family reunion the same day instead of Labor Day weekend. HELLO! This is my daughter’s wedding! Do you think they would hold a family reunion on their daughter’s wedding day? I think not. I was so furious. She told dau that she thought I would be happy that we only had to drive down for one event. Excuse me? I could care less about a reunion. This is my daughter’s wedding we are talking about. Now I wish they would have just eloped.

I called hub and told him. He thought perhaps I misunderstood. I said, I don’t think so. I said they can do what they like as far as a get together but this is my daughter’s wedding day. It is not a family reunion. How dare they? So hub called his mom who I guess suggested the same, and explained to her how this would be diminishing the importance of our daughter getting married. I am so angry still.

SIL wants to throw a wedding shower. OK that is great. She wants a theme from me. So I gave her several ideas. She proceeded to use the “around teh house” idea and we came up with several rooms. I suggested TWICE that she give ppl more than one choice. But no, she put on odd rooms for people and no easy room for them to choose between the two. I have people freaking out because they don’t know what to do. Part of this was MIL’s fault because she insisted we have a theme and insisted on knowing the menu (according to SIL) and so then SIL insisted on having the registry done so ppl would know what to get them. Like ppl can’t just go get something? WHy is the gift thing such a focus? I mean who doesn’t want gifts, but that is not the important thing here.

I just feel like Christmas. The importance of that day is lost in all the nonsense. Here my daughter’s wedding, a very, very sacred event in our lives, is being obscured by gift registry, family reunion and stressful shower things. Where is the focus? Certainly not on the important part of this whole ordeal.

Dau and her fiance don’t even have a place to live after the wedding. Come on. Who cares about flower arrangements and gift registry when you don’t know where you will living?

Dau is staying with this SIL this summer. My SIL is a saint. She does anything to help anyone, but I don’t think she knows she is a bulldozer and my daughter is very quiet and gentle (well, for the most part – you know what I mean) and I feel like she is just bulldozed over. You have to do this NOW. Plus SIL’s priorities are SO VERY different than ours. Dau says that all the time. She says how much she appreciates having been brought up here instead of there. She says over and over how backward the priorities are.

It made me feel good to hear her say that when she was growing up we always had music, song books and Bibles around the house. Maybe we didn’t do devotions regularly, maybe we didn’t read the Bible together or read it often enough, but it was there and it was obvious that it was important to us. We get distracted by this world’s cares and entertainment, but music and Scripture always had a place of honor in our home.

I could just cry. This is my only daughters wedding day. How could they take it so very lightly? At least if they would have eloped the priorities would have been on what was important. Not the gifts and the showers.

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