a breather

Lots of news! This last weekend we had a grad party for my son. it was well-attended. Fun. Dau came and her FINANCE. Yes, she is engaged. They were going to get married in Oct, but they keep moving it up. now it is a small wedding, family only, in August. next thing you know they will call and say, we are married! No, actually, I don’t think they will do that.

The grad party was great. I was prepared. I did well on planning. Not too much leftover. Didn’t run out of anything. Hub and son are in a brass choir that played for a wedding a couple hours earlier, so they brass offered to play at his grad party! That was SO exciting to me! It meant more than you can imagine!

Son has a friend whose family situation must be incredibly weird. He is very successful in all his endeavors. he is one of the top students, class rank in teh top 5, not completely straight A, but real, real close. Son and this friend went to state competition for speech, and actually placed! He works at a radio station. He has no car. He has no dad. He lives with him mom and sister.

As graduation approached, we heard from him that he came home from school one day and all his books had been donated to teh library. Suddenly he is taking calls about his cats who have been put up for adoption. He came home the day before graduation to have to dig his college stuff out of the trash. I just don’t understand. This guy is the MOST pleasant young man you can imagine! Really! Polite. No bad habits.

When Son was talking about his grad party, this guy said that he wasn’t even going to have one. Joked that he wuold just announce on the radio to come to our house for his party! When son told us that, we said, that would be ok. really. So this friend, asked son, are you sure? Ask them really? Really. We saw him and asked him if he would be so kind as to have his party with ours.

There were a lot of kids here I didn’t even know. The kid is pretty popular. His mom and sister didn’t come. I never even really gave it a thought. One of my outspoken neighbors told me that his dad committed suicide after his mom and dad divorced. How sad.

Later someone was complaining that was terrible that the mom didn’t come. I was like, well, I have never met the mom, but I don’t know why she didn’t come. And if it was OK with her son and OK with me, it shouldn’t really matter. It was OK w me. So thankfully this person, said, yeah, I guess you don’t know the reasons.

Anyway, so I am glad I could offer that and hopefully no one is badmouthing him or his mom. I have no idea what the situation is, but it can’t be normal. It makes me feel guilty for bringing any attention to it for having the party… man…

I always do some stupid unimportant social faux paux that haunts me for days after a busy weekend of socializing. I think I am being so clever to introduce myself to someone or something, and I introduced myself to a kid I had never met. I knew his name though and said, oh I recognize your name, I mean, just that I know you go to school here and stuff. It really bothers me now in retrospect. Why didn’t I just say, oh I recognize your name. Are you a senior too? Or something less stupid. Good grief. I hate that. And it is not important. It is just something that ends up haunting me. Good grief.

I guess I can sympathize with someone who I believe may have a mental illness (that kid’s mom) because I myself have my own mental illness. I am just glad I am still functional and have a loving family so I don’t wither away like a hermit.

Well, I hope to have more time to get to open diary. My job went full time and I am putting in 12-hour days now a lot of the time. Finally got a new person and I am training, but still. it is long days. I wish I could just kick back some, but every weekend is a major event. This weekend is a family reunion 8 hours away. i would love nothing more than to stay home and relax. Nope. The next weekend we have an annual sales meeting that I was informed I am required to attend. I don’t want to. I dislike many of our sales staff, and the last thing I want to do is socialize with them. But then again, I might get to go shopping. I am really not looking forward to this. Later the same week, we take son to enroll for fall classes, and then my future sil is bringing dau out because they are having a memorial service for his grandpa – yes, while we are in the town they live, they will be here. We told them they can stay at our house anyway. If I can get away with it, I will stay home. LOL.

Well, I hear thunder. Better shut down the computer. Sorry to note so infrquently, I think of you all and pray for you all!

God Bless!

faith hope and love, but the greatest of these is love.