convo

dau called me yesterday. her bf is anxious to move toward getting married, and dau is not quite ready for that. all his friends are getting married. they have been dating less than a year. he is trying to decide what he will do after he graduates from college. she has two more years.

part of me would be ok with them getting married while she is still in school, but she is only 20, and she has to finish where she is because she has a full ride scholarship and it would be foolish to blow that off. another part of me wants her to wait, of course. I would hope bf would get a job and be able to support them. I know ppl get married before they have all those things in place, and I know that is not THAT important…

I dunno. We didn’t finish our convo as she had to go to rehearsal and her phone battery died. she said she would call me today, but she didn’t. I have this urge to ask her if she is engaged yet. when she started the convo, she said things were getting really serious and they keep talking about Marriage. She said, don’t worry, I am not engaged yet. I guess I know its coming and I never thought it would be so soon. she was so set on staying single and getting into her schooling and what have you. Who knows what the Lord has in mind. I guess we will see.

mil makes little comments when I talk with her about dau’s relationship. I mentioned that I thought it was getting serious. She asked me, have they set a date? I was like, oh no! Not yet! Grandma wondered if he might be giving her a ring for Christmas. I think he would have liked to but dau is not receptive of the idea yet. She wants to marry him, but is just not ready. she says she is getting more ready all the time. Sometimes I am ok w it, but sometimes I am not ready either. Part of me can’t wait. But another part of me wants more time with her. Her moving on to college has drawn us closer, as I suspected it would.

I was kind of frustrated tonight. I went to the dr the other day, and he wants me to do some tests. i have been bad about keeping up with yearly exams and stuff. there is strong history of cancer in my family so he wants me to have a colonoscopy. gag me. that is not something i want to do, but my dad had colon cancer and my mom died of multiple myeloma (cancer). So I started to talk to hub about it as he is in his usual state, glued to the TV, and he turned up the volume. I know he doesn’t like to talk about that stuff. he accuses me of sticking my head in the sand, but he is big on doing that. I don’t hold any hard feelings because it has always been taht way. It just is something I wish we could discuss. I mean, I am not very comfortable talking about it either, but it would be nice to be together on it. oh well. I guess i need to just count my blessings and not worry about what I don’t have in regards to communication and all that. I just stopped mid sentence and left the room. I don’t know if he even noticed. Sigh. But at least I am not “upset” about it right now. Hope I stay ok w it cuz it is not likely to change.

I came across something someone gave me:

The top 10 strengths of a Happy Marriage

10 Agree on spiritual beliefs

9 Agree on how to spend money

8 Family and friend rarely interfere

7 Balance time alone and together

6 Satisfied with affection

5 Discuss problems well

4 Partner not controlling

3 Feel very close to one another

2 Use creativity to handle differences

1 Satisfied with communication

Well, I guess we have issues with some of those, but we always have and I guess I shouldn’t complain. A person can’t have everything they want. We do ok w 10, 9, 8 , 7, 4, and I guess that might be all today. Perhaps I will feel differently another day. Sometimes we do well with communication.

I told daughter that I think hub has some depression too. She said, oh he does. I see it in him. I guess that must be what it is. But he probalby doesn’t recognize it for that. He thinks I am the only one with a problem. Sigh. I will pray for him. That is the right thing to do anyway.

God Bless and thanks everyone for your notes. Sorry I don’t note more often. Work has me so busy I rarely have alone time that isn’t already committed to some task or anotehr. In fact, I was supposed to do my taxes this weekend but couldn’t psych myself into it. We won’t get a return so there is not much incentive to doing it anyway. Plus hub does not help at all. I am lucky if he will even look it over or discuss it w me. Imagine that. I guess it is consistent with his character anyway.

faith hope and love, but the greatest of these is love.