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dau’s x has been getting on her nerves. he has plans to go bowling with the girl he says he is interested in. dau says he keeps asking her if she is doing anything with g. she says i don’t know yet. he says stuff like, well if he makes u happy. dau was irate about that. she said he does not make me happy. i am happy with or without. it has nothing to do with me being happy. i actually think he does make her happy, but that is not the point.

the first time she freaked out at x was when he came home for break, and msnd or emailed her that he was not happy and that spending time with dau would make him happy. she freaked. she is like, i don’t want that responsility. she wants him to be happy on his own and not depend on her for his happiness. yes, she is a bit unusual.

so, all week dau has called me occasionally about g. yesterday she had a concert that g was not in. g came to see dau. but i thought her grandma and grandpa might come and told her to watch for them. after the concert she looked for them (they were not there) and missed out on talking to g. when she called me i could tell she was bummed. lol. she said she saw him leaving and did not call after him. not her style. but she felt bad she missed him. after some thought she was ok with it. she knew he would not take it personally or anything like that. she did say he told her he was going to that concert just to hear her.

then today she went to something. alone. g came in with a group of guys. he sat by dau. there was room for all but one of them, but they kind of scattered. several sat with dau and g. after the thing, g said, so are u busy tonight? i am sure after the other day’s convo he thought she would say she was busy. she said actually no. he was very surprised. she sort of apologized. yeah, i am pretty sad huh? not busy on a friday night. he said, not at all and was wondering if she wanted to do something. she said ok. he had something he needed to do first and then he would go to her dorm room. so of course she had to call me. i get the play by play for the time being. the day will come when i will no longer get calls, but it is all new and exciting and she wants to tell me all about it.

in this same convo with me she told me about how x is annoying her lately. when she came to the part about him asking her if she was doing anything with g and she kept saying she didn’t know yet, and then now yes she is. part of her take on it is that there is maybe nothing going on. she said, well, now there pretty much is. i mean, we are not just talking in the hall or after something, he is coming by my room. so she had to go tell her roomie so her roomie would be aware and not getting into her jammies or something. her roomie is the best. the best friend. the best girl. she is just plain cool. maybe she has a date for all i know, but she is just the best girl for my dau to room with. i love her to peices. i love her like she was my very own. i miss her a lot.

after i hung up, it occurred to me that my first take on x was probably accurate. he says he is over dau, and this nonsense makes u think that maybe he is not. even tho he told her he approved of g and told her to go for it, he is not ok with it. he is jealous. he wishes it was him that dau had the crush on. he keeps accusing her of avoiding him. stuff like that. he says they will go back to being shy and not having anything to talk about. she just doesn’t see why.

i suggested she tell him that he is annoying her. tell him that she wants to be friends. she is ok with him. he does not seem to be ok with her. i told her he should not be blaming it on her, and she should tell him not to. she said, i am not the one being weird here. i also said, u don’t have to do anything. u can just let him be and let him figure it out. i told her to do what she chooses and don’t worry about it. sounds like he is being a big baby.

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