couldn’t have worked out better

dau called me at work. she and xbf had just gone for icecream. they have been spending time apart so that they can “get over” each other so they were telling each other what they had been doing. she told him about the day with g and all that went on. xbf asked her what she thought of g. she said what do you mean? he said, do u like him? she said she did but she didn’t know if it was going anywhere. xbf said g was a great guy and that he approved of him. so… she got out of xbf that his roommate whose gf dumped him mercilessly is going after a girl he tried to set up xbf with. xbf was trying to decide if he should fight his roommate for her, but xbf said he liked another girl (not dau). dau was so happy! she was just thrilled. she called me as soon as she got to her room! she was just so happy it couldn’t have worked out better. she said he genuinely seemed to be happy for her and the weight is gone! now they can really be friends again without worrying about him liking her so much and all that. i guess they had to go out to get past that. i think they will be friends for life. he is such a super guy.

she told me about an incident that showed the difference between the 2 guys. xbf will say whatever so everyone is happy. g will say what he really thinks. there was a guy who wrote something and was asking their opinion about it. dau was there. no one said anything. xbf and g exchanged glances meaning neither of them liked it while it was being presented. finally xbf said it was good. (dau didn’t like that, she knew he was just saying that) g said nothing. finally the guy asked g directly, g, what do u think? g said i don’t like it. so the guy felt bad, but g was honest. he wouldn’t have said anything but the guy asked him directly. it was something g had to play as a substitute that day. so when the guy asked dau if she would play it one day, dau couldn’t. the guy said that he already asked g, but g said i can do it again. he said but u don’t like it. g said that is ok, i can play it if u need me to.

plus xbf i thought since he was so crazy about dau he would be very chivalrous. not so. he maybe just isn’t, i dunno. he did want to buy her a huge boquet of flowers for valentines, but she broke up with him before he could do so. she did that on purpose so he wouldn’t have to get her anything, but he really wanted to. his mom even told me so. but his mom said u better not now that she broke up with u.

but this g character, he is quite the gentleman, holding doors, getting her something to drink when they were at that thing the other evening. walking her to her car. she didn’t ask him to. i always thought xbf would be the type to walk her to her car, or walk her to her room when they did stuff together, but i guess not. he rarely if ever would walk her to her room. that always struck me as weird. i guess i worry about my little girl and want some big guy to walk her to her room. and what guy wouldn’t want to? so it was meant to be. now she and xbf can be good friends with good understanding.

xbf really did like her tho. he liked her more than he would tell her. he was really devastated that she broke up w him. he was insecure about it. previous xbf was very manipulative and would say things so she would like him. very little of what he said had any truth to it, so she was even more sensitive to it. i think this xbf was basically honest, but bent the truth a bit. she found that what he said may not necessarily be so. he said he was over her, but she couldn’t believe him until they went to get icecream and he actually told her about who he does like now.

he would always think dau was saying something or doing something and didn’t really mean it. she was so confused cuz everyone else who knows her knows she doesn’t do that. if she doesn’t want to do something she likely won’t do it unless it is the right thing to do and she should do it anyway. she will not say something unless she believes it to be true. she wouldn’t say she liked something if she didn’t. xbf has known her for a long time and dated her for several months and didn’t know this aobut her. i guess he expected her to be like “everyone else” but she isn’t. she is extremely different. she is not mainstream at all. one of her favorite sayings indicates that she follows her own path regardless of what the crowd will do. and she does. even if she goes it alone.

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