how do u tell someone

dau emailed me. xbf says he is over her and they are friends, but he still wants to do things together and she wonders if it is true. she wants to tell him about g. not like there is anything going on, but she wants to tell him so he knows about it. but she also doesn’t want to hurt him. so she is trying to figure out how.

she said she told him about what they did together the other day to see what his response was. she didn’t say what his response was.

one day she was msning with him here and she was telling him about how this foreign exchange student was talking to her and got her email addy. then he was emailing her a lot and asking her to go dancing or something like that. xbf said, go for it. dau said, y? she is not interested in this person except as a friend. she just met him. so then he got all weird, she said. i said, well, u probably touched a nerve talking about another guy and he is trying to convince himself that it doesn’t bother him. the poor guy has had a crush on her since 7th grade!

so i suggested she just come out and tell him she had a crush on someone so it would be no surprise if something developed between her and g. she is trying to spare him, but it might be easier to just get it on the table. sometimes in an effort to not hurt someone, she makes it twice as bad. one year she got into an honor thing and her best friend didn’t. she knew it. but instead of saying u didn’t make it, she had her look online with all of us there to see for herself. i thought… it would have been less embarrassing to just say no and move on. maybe not. she was trying to be hopeful. i dunno.

i gotta go to work and i don’t want to. the sun is finally shining. the snow is melting. kitty wants to play outside. so do i. so, i guess i will go in later. i get to pick my hours somewhat, especially since in this case i am covering for someone who went out of town and i am just getting them caught up before monday. no big deal. it just has been so long since the sun has come out and it is likely going to be cloudy most of next week too according to the weather channel.

son is getting himself behind in school. i knew it would happen. he goofs off so much. pulled all As and one B last semester, but i got a note from his english prof saying he was falling behind. spring is not a good time to try to catch up. he has all sorts of competition band and vocal things coming up, spring musical where he has the lead and is in every scene but two, plus ACT test and AP tests. it is by far the very busiest time of the year. just one thing after another every night and every weekend. major papers due. colleges to investigate. scary.

so i don’t know how to help him get organized. i used to go and clean up his room so everything was neat and he could find things, but i determined that really wasn’t preparing him for when he needed to do that for himself so i quit. his room is a disaster. he can’t find clothes, shoes, papers, anything. so what do i do? do i let him wallow in his mess? i could try to talk him into cleaning it together. i just don’t think cleaning it for him will have long term benefits since it never seemed to stick in the past.

i am not very neat and organized myself. i try. i usually can prioritize enough that i can find the important stuff. hub is 10 x worse than me. he is a mess. he never picks up after himself. it is very aggravating, but i married him that way so it is not fair for me to expect him to change. although i still try to encourage him to help me out. son, on the other hand, should be trainable. it just doesn’t seem to be happening. i don’t want him to go through life such a mess. i guess i can just keep praying and see if he pulls himself out of it and gets himself together. i hope so.

faith hope and love, but the greatest of these is love.