Observations

There is less tension when her family is here.

I can’t tell if its a lie.
She is decidedly more cheerful and less irritated about the unfortunate circumstance.
It makes me wonder if all the negativity stems from the lack of other people in her life.
There is no animosity in this place: the in-between when there is love without resentment. Before the bitterness.
It is reservation.  Not lying, being guarded. Leaving something out instead of telling something untrue.
There is so much self-depreciation that builds up inside her.  It bleeds out and poisons things. 
I do not understand how to fight it.
 
There is not a viable solution.