As The Wheel Turns
I don’t know about you guys, but when things get upside down and inside out for me – I tend to withdraw. Hence, my “more-absent-than-not” presence here at OD.
Is anything earth-shattering? Not so much. Not any one thing. But when you add one little thing with another and throw it all in the Kitchen-Aid of life…….not so appetizing.
News of the “in-touch”: A few weeks ago I began to think about a friend of Chickie’s that we haven’t seen in a couple of years….and then he showed up at our door. Right after that, Daddy-dearest and I were talking about one of my childhood friends – and a few days later she was at the hairdresser when I went with Chickie to get her hair done. I was feeling pretty good – finally I am getting “in touch”.
And then……
Remember this past April or May when Chickie had a miscarriage? A mixed blessing to be sure – the loss of a child – even one not yet born – is difficult, at best. However, she is young and not really in the best life situation for a child, so it seemed like a chance for a clean start to me. Apparently Chickie and I were not “in-touch” on this one.
Chickie is once again pregnant. The baby is due end of June. Top that off with – she lost her job. Can anyone say STRESS? Sigh. Fortunately the sun was shining and Chickie starts her new job tomorrow. Hopefully this one will last.
And the baby-daddy? He is the boyfriend of long standing…but he and Chickie are not on the best of terms right now. She is getting serious about a family and he seems to be trying to fit in every bit of young male stupid behavior that he can all at once.
How do I feel about this? I am a bigger wreck than Chickie. What this seems to have done for me…..is to bring up every bad experience I ever had in my life and make me worry about it again. I have lost my job. I have been man-less. I have been pregnant and a parent and know about the ‘issues’ that lie in Chickie’s path. I want to be supportive of her and helpful – even though I am disappointed that she chose to do this right now. But when she wants to talk “baby talk” I find myself replying as minimally as possible and moving on to a new subject.
Look at that – I have taken my daughter’s pregnancy and related issues and made it all about me. Damn, I’m good.
And, no, we haven’t told Daddy-dearest yet. He is not the most tolerant individual…. And this will not be pleasant. Of course, CHICKIE won’t hear about it, but I sure as hell will. For the rest of all our lives. See? It really is about me.
As for Daddy-dearest – a little story for his “fans”. Yesterday I was out of town and Chickie had an issue with the car repair folks at Sears. She went to get her oil changed and they were trying to force her into another procedure that she didn’t need by scaring her. I ended up calling Daddy dearest to go down there and help. He did. She didn’t need the extra work and he straightened out everybody on that little matter. However, when I talked to Chickie later, she informed me that Grandpa made that man cry, then asked the two friends that were with her for a hug, and went on his merry way. Daddy-dearest’s version was that that little SOB refused to do what he told him to, so he picked up the bottle of coolant,
walked out into the garage bay himself and poured the coolant into the engine where it belonged. Oh how I wish I had been there – I love witnessing Daddy-dearest at his ‘finest’! At least I got a grin out of the whole story…
So, I’m still alive and still (mostly) kicking. And I’ll be back to normal and catching up with everyone soon. As soon as I can reconcile my headaches and heartaches and separate them from Chickie’s. Yes, I CAN get my act together – I know I can!
Sounds like you’re in about the same spot I am. Wouldn’t a nice long hibernation be nice?
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Wow. That’s a lot of news. I wish you the best with all of this, my friend.
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life can be so dang stressful.. sending you some extra-strength {{{Sunshine}}}
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{{{Hugs}}} — Take care of you. I’m keeping my fingers crossed all ’round.I thought of you when I stumbled across this:http://www.sharpie.com/sanford/consumer/sharpie/promotions/autograph.jhtmlAmong other things, schools can enter into a contest to win $5,000 in supplies.
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Good Luck to Chickie. How far along is she? It’s good to be “in touch” but sometimes it creeps me out a little.
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*hugs*
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Oh, you have NO IDEA how desperate I’ve been for a Daddy fix!!!! THANK YOU!
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You would have thought she’d have learnt from the first time! Tell her to keep her legs crossed! Good luck to you. Hugz
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The year’s been off to a rocky start for a lot of us. With blessings all ’round…
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I agree with Torin. The year has started off rough for a lot of people. I’m glad Daddy dearest resolved the problem.
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I came in all ready to crack wise about cream-filled doughnuts, but…re-pregnated Chickie! Holy crap! Yeah, that might stress a girl out pretty good. Whew. Wishing you all much strength, luck and good health… (Oh! And…GO Daddy-dearest!)
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I can sympathize on the pregnancy, as a mom, my hope was always that my daughter would wait to have children until her own life was in order. So far she has done so, I would be devastated if she hadn’t. My best to all of you.
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wow i’m in a chitty place today. not at all tolerant….. I WANT to tell you to swat that girl upside the head and ask her stuff…… but i won’t. *sighs* i got an email from keith this morning….. it’s a picture of the world…… spinning around this tiny little red dot….. labled “me”. as in, “the world really does revolve around me.” i don’t know what it means yet….. him or me, buti find it true no matter who “me” is. lol
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Good luck to Chickie, and take care 🙂
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This is a very difficult situation, to be sure. This may sound like fantasy, but the fact is that these aren’t your problems to solve, they’re hers. You can be supportive, you can offer advise, you can even help materially, if you want to, but the fact remains that this is her situation and she needs to deal with it as an adult. It won’t be easy on any of you, but when was growing up ever easy?All the very best to all of you.
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((((hugs to all of you))))
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I don’t know Wolfie, there are too many reasons for her not to have a baby, how could you be happy about it in any kind of real way. And it is not in your control. I would not be able to handle it. No house, no husband, and I know from experience, cheap babysitters and daycares are NOT who should raise ANY human being ever ever ever at all. I just want to confirm you are in a tough Tough spot, and the only way is to take each day as it comes, and take care of yourself as much as possible even if it means saying no a lot more than you ever have before. Hugs,
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I’ve come to the conclusion that we never totally get our “acts” together, cause if we did we’d be perfect then what would our purpose here on this orb called earth be? **shrugs** I like not having my act together makes chocolate taste better….. Lael
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I’ve been considering trying to sell some of my relatives on ebay, I’ll let you know how that works out. LOL 🙂
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I tend to be the same in my writing; it’s easier for me to just keep to myself when things get rough. It is good to see an update from you however and I hope things work out for both you and Chickie. That is a lot of stress for both of you. Warm hugs and wishes to you both.
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It’s your diary…it’s supposed to be all about you. I’m sorry about the pregnancy. Telling your dad is going to be tough.
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You’re not alone with that one. Might as well let your dad share it with you. It’s 3/18/07, Hope you can find time for an update soon. Would like to use your Jan 25 post on What Teachers Make for my next Sunday diary post. Hugs, Willy
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And? With a raised eyebrow…
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Catching up here, finally. (Does anyone else catch up six weeks after an entry is written, I wonder?) I hope that things are now settling a little, both for Chickie and for you. How hard it is to see those we love heading for difficulties and pain! (And yes, that means we ourselves will hurt too – so isn’t all involvement with others also all about us? That is just the way life is.) But there is agrandchild ahead, a new ife and so a new love. Wishing you much strength as you move through this time.
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It has been a very long time since you have updated. I hope everything is ok! Please write soon!
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I know all about hibernation mode. *Pulls a face* Thanks for the Daddy dearest fix…
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