Those Moments That Make It All Worthwhile

I have been very busy with my "little" extra summer project.  I am helping to rewrite 2 of our department’s curriculums.  (Should that be curriculi??  heh)  I’ve had my nose glued to the computer screen.  Even so I haven’t had more than a moment or two to spend catching up with faves here…..  🙁 

And my house – oh my.  It’s falling down around my ears.  Chickie’s bathroom has a leaky sink and a faulty bathtub drain.  The light fixture over her mirror is wobbling like a champ.  The dogs have brought in enough sand out of the back yard to make it feel like a day at the beach if you walk around barefooted.  Simba, my bashful baby boy kitty is not at all bashful about using his litter box and spreading the litter around it in a 3 foot radius.  I am officially out of clean underwear (more than you wanted to know, huh?) and there is NO food in the house.  I have some new pets.  Dust bunnies are taking over!  I am thinking of naming some of them. 

Chickie has been largely on her own since graduation.  She works, she does whatever it is she does.  Sometimes she even talks to me.  Sometimes when she talks she is even nice about it.  This last couple of years has been very hard on this Wolfie mom.  I’d like to be more a part of what’s going on in her head…but she’s not signing up for that plan.  This has caused more than a few rounds of "heated discussions" and sleepless nights.  But now she has graduated and she is an 18 year old adult.  On the rare occasion that she DOES tell me what’s on her mind, I am totally amaze about how mature her ideas and thoughts are.  She has 3 friends who are out-of-wedlock mothers.  Two of them dropped out of high school to have their babies.  She has another friend who dropped out to become a stripper.  Given that information – do you really wonder why I worried about her so much?  But I think these friendships have been good for her in at least one way.  She sees first hand how hard it is to be these girls….and she doesn’t want to go there. 

Given the tensions of the last year, I was caught totally unaware and flatfooted dumbfounded last Thursday when Chickie went out on an errand….and returned with a bunch of flowers and a beautiful card for me.  Here’s the verse from the card….

Mom, no one has to tell me
how lucky I am to have you,
because I’ve known for a long time.
When I think back over the years
and remember all the special things
you’ve done for me,
I realize that you’re not only
a wonderful mom –
you’re also a unique woman.
You’ve taught me so much
about life and love and giving’
and those are lessons
I’ll never forget.
You’ve shown me how to stand
on my own in the world,
and for that I’ll always be grateful.
So many things that have added
to my happiness
have been gifts from you.
Maybe having a mom like you
has spoiled me a bit,
but don’t ever think
I don’t appreciate and love you,
because I do…

with all my heart.              (Linda Lee Elrod)

And she signed it…  Just saying I LOVE YOU!

Like I said……sometimes you know it’s all worthwhile.

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well she carried the cup as if something in it would bite her and she dropped it in the trash basket outside the door..bitch. April Mist has permission to piss on her, you wanta go second? I didn’t think so, but I’d have been very un peyote if I didn’t offer.

you know lonesome angel? she sends me to a site called Joe Steel. Right? I’m on a public computer, The moment his site comes up, three women behind me gasp’d for air. so if you go there to check him out. be prepared. It’s not for the faint of heart. Bring proof of ID, you have to be 21 to get in. Think Hooters..

June 22, 2005

She’s such a cutie. Home ownership — ugh. (And I think it’s curricula. LOL!)

June 22, 2005

she is a cutie… you have every right to be proud!

I’m not mr computer. sometimes I hit the wrong button. But every time my computer screen fills with porn or T & A, women walk out of nowhere and walk by my computer and go tsk tsk tsk..I don’t know why. have you seen joe steel? it’s an eye full..

June 22, 2005

Wow, that was nice of her!!!

June 22, 2005

Tears stand in my eyes, wow, oh wow. Precious. ox

This made me cry. What a cool thing for your daughter to do. 🙂 Of course, so did satan, my new bathroom scale. 🙂

June 22, 2005

How lovely! Really lovely! Now on a practical note… Ditch the litetr tray and buy a fairly high sided toy box plastic container thingy. The cat will jump in and the litter will not go all over the place. Sorted!

June 22, 2005

don’t they just amaze you sometimes? Okay, what does she want? (Just kidding, it was a beautiful card) And Lizzie is out of underwear too, I had to do a load of laundry today because we can’t have her sister doing it, she would be scandelized and shocked. 🙂

June 22, 2005

OHHHHHH! Absolutely priceless!!

June 22, 2005

Awww 😀 Now that is how you should be rewarded! Beautiful! Good luck on the Summer projects and repairs. I know that feeling. Hope you have more good times 🙂

June 22, 2005

Her Mama must have raised her right!

June 22, 2005

Ohhhhhh what beautiful eyes Chickie has! Having raised a high risk “difficult” child myself I know how much it means to be acknowledged by them when they finally get it. I’ll betcha she’s going to be just fine (thanks to you). When will all this work end so you can take a few deep breaths and enjoy your summer? hugs…

June 22, 2005

She’s beautiful. (And FallingDog is right – it’s curricula.)

June 22, 2005

That’s wonderful! And yes, it’s curricula. Plural of neuter (-um ending words) is -a. Plural of masculine (-us ending) is -i, and the plural of feminine (-a) is -ae. Five years of Latin were not wasted. With a smile…

June 22, 2005

it’s curriculi-li…. chickie is a pretty woman. when lolly turned 17 she hated my ass for a whole year. she colored me confused with hurt feelings that year. then poof, i was a rabbit and she was silly again. it drove me nuts. maybe your a rabbit now too. *grins*

June 22, 2005

She’s a really beautiful girl. She chose a lovely way to honor you. That’s class.

June 22, 2005

RYN: I WONDERED what that dance was! That explains the rash of pregnant women out here on the West Coast! hehe

June 22, 2005

I remember when oldest daughter had kids of her own and said: “mom, I’m on your side of the generation gap now”.. It’s amazing what happens when they grow up and have to make it on their own.

June 23, 2005

Wow!! See, she cares *grin* Falling down houses… they truly suck!! We need a new hot water tank, re-new kitchen ceiling, sort heating out… etc!! RYN: It made me grin from ear to ear!!! Oh, I have an answer to the underwear dilema… buy new ones!! I have a draw stuffed full because of that!

June 23, 2005

see that? she rocks!! just like her mama, now go do the laundry! ;o)

I wrote that part about teachers being a special breed for you. And those you know. your welcome

bd
June 23, 2005

That was sooo sweet. It took my daughter a bit longer to be sweet to me, but she came around too. It’s nice to know that the hard times are not all there is.

June 23, 2005

Zippidy yay! 🙂

well I’m an empath, so to a lot of people, in a lot of places at a lot of times in my life, I have been the whussy sissy cry boy..I cried a little when I wrote that part of 9-11 and those brave people..things like that touch me deeply and when I’m touched like that, I cry. but I think they are tears of a man strong enough to care about other people. and I can’t aplogize for that.

June 23, 2005

A moment in time to cherish and remember forever, the day the kid came around. 🙂 RYN: Yep, I’m a wimp..a big old whiney wimp. LOL Still and all, I’d like to see the melt down in Florida.

June 23, 2005

Sometimes, just when you think you that nothing you ever said got through to them, they do something like Chickie did. Makes it all worthwhile I think.

June 23, 2005

Oh my, that’s a keeper alright. And your daughter is lovely.

June 23, 2005

So lovely. Am leaving here wiping a tear.

i appreciate it but you might want to hold the applause until you see the way I went off on mississippi. open Diary did put me on the front page for awhile though. whoo hoo..

btw as the song says, Mrs Brown you have a beautiful daughter.

June 23, 2005

my daughter has sent me cards like that. Makes you realize that they listened to us and how much they do love us

Wonderful! And your daughter is not just a cutie, she is striking. Her eyes sparkle like a fine wine. Gorgeous!

June 23, 2005

That card would have had me in tears. You’ve done a few things right in bringing her up, haven’t you! Enjoy the card, the sentiments and the flowers – you’ve earned every bit of them.

June 23, 2005

I had to laugh at your description of what happens to your house when you turn your back for a moment. Now with the four cats and the six kittens in the house, I’m constantly cleaning litter boxes and sweeping up cat litter. Your daughter is lovely. What a sweet way for her to tell you she loves you.

June 23, 2005

Very pretty girl….and I bet ya cried too! hehe Hugz

June 24, 2005

Do you want me to tell you, or do you want to get the last book out and re-read it, or do you want to reread the entire series? I’m sure it’s not in the cliff notes, unless they were written by a frog. 🙂

Mns
June 24, 2005

what nice thoughts for mom came out of that pretty head of hers. yes, it is moments like those which make it all worthwhile~

August 13, 2005

Awww that was lovely. That was awfully sweet of her. Sounds like a chip off the old block to me. *warmest hugs*