Conflict & Transition-or Conflicted Transition?
All I want to do is climb into my wonderfully comfortable and welcoming waterbed, pull the covers over my head and sleep for about a hundred years. Maybe not a hundred years, but how about 100 hours?
I had a whirlwind trip to FL. The purpose was to investigate a job/business opportunity my friend was proposing. After being there and talking with her I am feeling very overwhelmed. Last night I dreamed I was drowning. Not a predictive dream, but a reflective one.
I spent much of my time experiencing her business. I sat in on classes, visited clients, witnessed presentations for certification candidates. I watched her and I watched them. Shes very good. Shes also very successful, both professionally and monetarily. The opportunities to grow her business much larger are truly there, but its more than one person can handle.
We talked honestly and openly about the separation of friendship & business. We are of like mind there the friendship has endured this long and so it takes priority. She made me a very attractive offer including both an employment contract to ease both our fears and gradual increased ownership in the business. It wont be immediately at the same level I have been earning, but has the potential to far exceed that level. It can also open some very big doors for me. Transition.
And thus the dilemma its very attractive but at least at the beginning, its in Florida. Conflict.
I LOVE my house. I LOVE my garden. I bought it all by myself no husbands, no father just me. Its the first BIG thing I did like this. I dont ever want to leave it.
I fled Florida 3+ years ago to escape the demands of my father. Going back emotionally feels like a failure, although thats not intellectually true.
When I talked to my sister about the pros and cons, my palms were tingling. Crap! Our palms hold charkas (energy centers) and this opportunity has set mine aflutter, signaling this would be good for me.
When I talked to my son about my fears and hopes, he cut to the chase.
Mom, in a soccer game you dont always kick the ball forward to score. Sometimes you drop it back first and THEN you score.
When I talked to my dad, he was uncommonly supportive and rational. His words to me were not of his needs and fears and he applied no pressure in any direction (take note thats a MIRACLE).
When I talked to my daughter, I was scared. Hell hath no fury like an uprooted teenage girl. She said no, she wouldnt move. Then she seemed to accept it. Then she went back to NO. Then she backed off again. No hysterics (miracle 2) but good conversation.
So once again I find myself being the only significant stumbling block in my way. It looks as if I will be spending the summer in Florida as a trial run. That leaves me a graceful out if its needed.
I keep fluctuating between excitement and terror. Theres just way too much to do justice to here and how in the he** do I make sure I am doing justice to my family and myself?
Off to stick my head in the toilet and flush it a few times. Couldnt hurt and it might even help! hehe – good thing I handle conflict in such a “healthy” manner!
That’s a tough spot. Giving yourself a swirly may clear your head, but use goggles! The blue water may be attractive in the bowl, but probably stings the eyes. The trial run over the summer is the smart way to go..If it’s not for you, you’ll know and you still have your home
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Life changing decisions are often difficult to make, but you’ll make the right choice, sure enuff {:o)
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Don’t sell … you’ll need a vacation home soon … 😉
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like the above not says, don’t sell. you could rent it out too, if you want.
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Well I can feel for you in this, change is scary. You have some time to think it over, make some decisions. I think if you stay out of the waterbed while you are dreaming, you won’t feel like you are drowning anymore! Okay, maybe that won’t help. But I don’t have a waterbed so I’m jealous! Take care and good luck with whatever you decide. 🙂
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It’s a hard choice, dearest. I am of no use to you whatsoever in this one. Only *you* know what feels right and best for you. The best I can do is to stand by your shoulder and support whichever direction you choose. With a warm hug…Torin in the robes of
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ryn:Thankyou.I’m just so happy to BE here today.I like ur son’s philosophy,must’ve been raised by a wise woman,eh?I think you’ll know what’s best for u once u stop “drowning” in all the info/ideas/changes it would entail.U could always rent ur home!I’ll be interested to see which road u take.Change is hard,but can be liberating too.Have a nice snooze,kiddo! **HUGS**
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Damn the torpedoes, Sunshine!–full stesm ahead to Florida! Opportunity is knocking the door down & if you don’t go you will spend your life wondering “what if”
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Fledding from Florida? No..no what a lovely place to fled from. I have seen pictures of Florida and it looks rather nice. Now I forget what I wanted to say! I am sure it was to thank you for a note which always gives me such joy to recieve or receive. Last is right I fink. Saving so I can flee to Florida…Alex
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and fluctuating as well! Between fledding and fluctuating and sleeping in waterbeds this is all a worry. Is the water bed dry? I hope so. Well ope this cheers you up/ Alex
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((((((((((((( HUGS ))))))))))))))) you’re in a lonely place , just realize that we are here . whatever your decision you have our support .
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WOW! that’s great, a business, and we all know y ou are very talented and can make it work. As for chickee moving, maybe promise more easy mac and pizzas. *grin* ducks and hops away VERY quickly. Tingling palms, well you know what that means, it’s like when my neck crinkles. 🙂 froglette somehow unsigned in the leap over
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I just read your little comment on the front of Harley’s diary and I snorked out loud. I’m still snorking. You wicked wench. I adore you. Have I mentioned that? *snorking even more*
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Opportunites await… You’ll make the right decision…Pros and Cons… Cons and Pros… add them up and than do the math.
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JFK once noted that the chinese charactor for opportunity was the same as the charactor for danger, the fact you are scared is not a bad thing in itself. Go, take the test drive and good luck. It will work out, cause you know what? It always does. Peace,
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excitement vs terror. been there. done that. a huge decision like this is so rough! good luck, whatever you decide. thanks as always for your kind notes and suggestions.
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ryn: I had to stop into town and drop of books at library, got to go clan car and pack up stuff for tomorrow. All I can say is***giggling***”Hey,Hey…PAULA!” People have been singing that song to me all my life! What a kick. Will email you when I can. This is just too much! With Much Love, Paula…OMG….another one!….WOW!
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it seems to me that you have already made boundarys in your life..especially where your father is concerned…leaving once gave him a message and you stood within your own power..no one will topple you my friend..you are strong and you are courageous and the universe has opened the doors and if it is meant to be you will sail in without hitches or problems…you spiritually rock…huggles you
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Excellent advice here. Got your letter. Mine is in my head soon to be on paper. Hugs to you and the family
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You are very kind. I sometimes have a weird sense of humour and get carried away on flights of ridiculousness. And is there such a word as that! Good grief. Alex to s/wolf…over and out
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I just hate it when that happens…..sure, a big fat opportunity is nice, but what about all the changes it demands? If you put a gun to my head and said, “Jeff, give me your best advice”, the best I could do is suggest you look as far down this road as you can and try to envision where you could be. Then take (another) deep look inside and see if you would feel good in that place…good luck SW.
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Go with your heart, SW…you havent steered yourself wrong yet! *HUGS*
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I’m with “go with your heart”. I just made a snap decision to go back to my former career. It was a heart- made decision but I feel it was the right one. Wishing the same for you.
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*chuckles at your cure for conflict* warm thoughts sent your way for decisions that will be the best for you~
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Maybe the pink heart was a sign that even in the biggest dilema’s there’s something good. It’s up to you to find it. I hope you do… and let’s not forget, there’s no six flags in Florida so you won’t have to wait for chickie surrounded by inflatable bobbing bats… of course she’ll just come home with micky mouses instead!
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Choice is often harder than no choice… but I supsect in the end your path will be clear… and exciting 🙂
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Oh wow…how scary! How wonderful! This is quite a crossroads you’ve come to. It IS scary, but how might you feel down the road if you didn’t try it? I know how you must feel about your house/garden too…I feel the same way. Be brave and trust yourself! ~:) ArtImp, nsi
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Listen to Willy !……hey, what how does that saying go….nothing ventured – nothing lost…..but….do not sell the house..just to play safe for a bit…… Warm Thoughts………..
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I’m reading the beginning knowing the outcome. I hope everything works out well. You know you can do it… it’s just the next step in doing. I know how you feel about leaving things that you’ve done yourself. I loathe being married, to anyone. You’re still free so you’ll do it again and be the stronger for it. 🙂 cA (**G)
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