October 4, 2000

It Comes In Threes and Other Cliches

The road to hell is paved with good intentions. It was my intention (and a very good one at that) to catch up with all the diaries I regularly read. As you may have noticed, I have not followed through on that intention. Guess I know where the road Im on is leading

You cant teach an old dog new tricks. All I have to say about that one is woof!

Things happen in threes. Now weve reached the meat of this diary entry.

My father has prostate cancer. Hes been through a couple of different courses of treatments, but his PSA level is on the rise. (Translation: The stuff in his blood that indicates cancer is increasing). So the doc is thinking that perhaps the cancer has metastasized. There is another super-duper biopsy planned and so I am taking an unplanned trip back to Florida. It would be an understatement to say that my dad is not a good patient. THING number 1.

After hearing all that, I called my sister. She is going through a lot of life changes. It is all very exciting and, at the same time, very scary. After we had discussed my dads issues, we talked about hers. Bottom line there is I promised to be her safety net in case what she is planning doesnt work out exactly how she is hoping. Thats fine. I meant it. I would do anything in the world for my sister. However, in the big scheme of things, this ranks as THING number 2.

Having dealt with Daddy and Sis, I called Young Stud for a briefing and a bit of the sympathetic listening that he is so good at. True to form, he was a great listener. And when he was through listening, he started talking. He has gone back to school on a part time basis. Something has finally clicked with him and he is now itching to get back to school. Yippee-skippee!! Ive been hoping for this. He wants to go full time. He is going to need financial help. He wants me to sit down with him and his father when we go to Florida for Thanksgiving and discuss this amongst ourselves. Pursuant to the terms of our divorce, college expenses are his fathers responsibility. Its written on paper in black and white. Thus far, his father has declined to help. And NOW were supposed to sit down and have a rational discussion? OK. THING number 3.

The next cliché that comes to mind is the best defense is a good offense. I wonder why?

Im all clichéd out for now (isnt THAT a relief?!) so Ill just say Nighty-night, Sleep Tight, Dont Le the Bedbugs Bite..and try to act on the aforementioned good intentions.

I had to read this when I saw the title. I had one of those “threes” weeks too. Hope it all works out for you. Good Luck!

BBe

October 5, 2000

I think I could keep you company barking (howling?) at the moon. Your kennel or mine? 🙂

Pertaining to ex; Remind him what happens to people who defy legal doccuments. If he’s to pay for Young Stud’s school, then he PAYS! No ifs, ands, or buts! 🙂 Shalom,

Back when I used to try to reason with my Mom, my then boyfriend would remind me, “You can’t have a rational conversation with irrational people.” You might want to remember that for #3. XOXO

darkart

October 5, 2000

=) Hope your dad gets better, your sis does well in her venture and young stud finds joy in his studies! oh and goodnight and sweet dreams!

Saw the title, and immediately thought “Walkman” ..don’t know why! Hope your Dad and Sis both get through their probs OK, and that you sort Ex out! Hugz

Sounds like you’ve had quite a busy/emotionally draining few days…hope things look up soon.Hey, it’s four if you count the computer.

Willy & Wilma

October 5, 2000

Into each life some rain must fall–and you certainly are in a deluge,Sunshine. Let’s hope for the best.

*hugs* Threes only come along every so often 🙂 Remeber to look after yourself as well.

Thanks for the note… you’re up early aren’t you?!

I hope you can stick to your guns during the discussion about college fees. You are the one expected to ride back-up ALL the time. I hope it works out well for you… and I hope you enjoy the visit with family. 🙂

sounds like a heavy load. i hope they all appreciate your love and efforts. everyone is right on the college money too. get the law to help if you have to. good luck to all. take care

You might mention to your X that Young Stud may someday be picking out his convalescent home, and might need to help pay for it too. 🙂 Ha, grim though, sorry. It’s nice to see you. Much love darlin,

Torin Invanusson

October 6, 2000

Here’s hoping it all works itself out, dear Sunshine. With a warm hug…

BlueEyes

October 6, 2000

Prayers going out for your Dad for a speedy recovery, and to you for strength to deal with everything.

Wishing your dad the best. I hope things will come out better than anticipated. You do have a full plate, but you seem to be takin’ care of business! BTW, thanks for the birthday greetings! ~:)

Oh dear, oh dear, my dear. Miss you, but I know these things take time and energy. Sending healing thoughts for your dad, and hope everything falls into place eventually (it always does). Peace and strength to you.

*hugs* know what you mean by PSA, my dad’s tipped the scales again. His doc said he equals ronald regan in the too big prostate dept. Hope your sis hops well! Pell grants for young stud? *non mushy good drink*

MsWolf, again we are on the same path. #3Kidatarnheim broke his ankle last night. As this week of 3’s concludes I thought you and I should plot a vacation together, take a break from this stress filled time! 🙂

So sorry about your father, Sunshine. So many people lean on you, and now you have to be the strong one.

so good to read you again, Sunshine. I’m so sorry to hear about your dad and my prayers are with him. Yippee about the studies and best of luck getting ex to contribute his share. Mostly, hugs to you…

I know the feeling well, my friend. As my father used to say, “I always wanted to be a procrastinator, but I kept putting it off.” *LOL* I will pray for your Dad. J

prayers for your dad , fingers crossed for your sis and GOOD LUCK with the X .and you , HUGS and take care of yrself 🙂

Will keep you and yours in my prayers. Know this is a tough road as I am travelling a similar one. Hugs and love to you, Sunshine. ZB (nsi)

I’m Back! Get the cash from ex..screw it to him. KIDD J

Prayers for you, SW, so that the goodness you put out comes back to you tenfold.

Got yr note SW Hmm I’ll think about it. As for yr 3rd situation – advice: If u havn’t already done it – find out what you/legal system can do to yr ex if he breaks the agreement ie: not pay college fees….

..that way you know how to scare the S**t out of him if he fails again. another cliche: Fore warned is fore armed. Though goodness only knows how four arms can help – it wld make shopping difficult.

My thoughts are with you and your Dad- SW! As for the other stuff with your ‘X’ and young stud… I was thinking, ‘what comes around goes around’… Be Well!

you’re right about the housework, but someone has to do it. and i get elected 🙂

I’ve been trying to leave a note for you at the latest entry, but the OD is acting up. Shall try again later. Peace!

Goodness, doesn’t this sound just like Life? I think Things happen in groups so we don’t become too involved with any One Thing!

woofywuf its ok; only so many minutes in a day!

Mns

October 13, 2000

sounds like your plate is quite full… do take care, SW..

i am sending you lots of even numbers to help you balance out

I’m so sorry to hear about your dad. Don’t have words adequate to say. Just sending you some good wishes to get through this.