Ugh, facebook.

So my mum flipped out today when I told her I was uncomfortable showing here me and my brother’s facebook pages. See, she guilt tripped me into showing her my brothers and I let her for a while … then wanted her to stop because I didn’t know if there was anything incriminating on it. Now … he’s 24 … but he and my mum have had one hell of a rough relationhip … so I couldn’t trust him not to put something iffy on his page and I couldn’t trust her not to freak out over it … and by iffy … hell it could be something about a fancy food item (not drinking or doing drugs or anything ‘normally’ incriminating). See she’s convinced that his girlfriend (who’s a snob of sorts) is influencing all of his decisions … so everything he says/does/likes becomes a hot button … and it always ends with her threatening to write him out of her will, not going to their wedding, and not having anything to do with their grandchildren (so yeah, it’s pretty serious and surely one can understand why I’d be anxious). Anyways … so she looked at his page, and his photos, and his friends comments and stuff … (also I don’t know much about his friends so that also made me anxious) …. and it turns out there wasn’t anything ‘bad’ on it, but it was still really uncomfortable … I’m his sister and I couldn’t say whether he’d approve of it or not. So while she was looking through it all … I asked if she had finished and she said she hadn’t … so I said … ‘mum … you’re like a facebook creeper’. So she kept looking through and she saw my name at the top and announced it and I got up and took my laptop away and asked her to please stop looking. Anyways she hit the roof … but at that ‘facebook creeper’ comment … my mum is like 66 and this is a new term for her … and when I have used it/hear others using it … it’s NOT meant to be absolutely insulting … like most people have been jokingly called it at least once … jebus, I can admit to being one at one point with a guy I liked in high school … it’s something you laugh about with your friends and are like, yeahhh, I am, and it’s no big deal … but she took it in the most negative sense even after I explained to her what it meant and how people are called it with no harm intended. Anyways she became irate and was raving on and on … about how she has a right to this information … how it’s ‘public knowledge’ and she can look at it (she disregarded the fact that it’s public to facebook users who have been approved of course) … how she’s starting to not trust me because of this … how she thinks that I’m calling her creepy, or a stalker, or a voyeur (you know, something that IS negative) … she’s like ignored me all evening … and basically banished me upstairs (yes keep in mind that I’m 20 for eff’s sake) and on and on and on. And I thought, why the hell is this coming back to me? So I don’t want to compromise my brother’s privacy? So I don’t want to show her my own page? I have nothing incriminating on mine (trust me, it looks like I barely use fb, when I use it, it’s all private messages, I don’t even put pics or even like what music I like or anything). I freely volunteer information about what I do, who my friends are, what we do, what THEY do, etc … I mean I LIVE with her for eff’s sake, of course I’ll be open and honest with her … but I feel like fb should at least be ONE private sphere … as a parent, I don’t know WHAT she’ll judge and what she won’t. And it’s like … are you joking? I FREELY tell you what’s happening in my life every day without fail … I’m not some kid (not even a kid) who is hiding dirty secrets behind her back… and I would hope SHE’D trust ME enough to know that (and she says she does, yet this is how she reacts). She’s all like ‘You don’t want to be over-exposed’ (as a criticism of me) and it’s like … no, I don’t like being overexposed, that’s why I santize my facebook, isn’t that a responsible thing to do, wouldn’t most parents agree with that? And if she just wanted to see my page, okay, but she wants to see like … what my friends post, and if she can, to click on their pages (and I certainly can’t sanitize what’s on their pages!). She doesn’t understand why children might not like their parents looking at their facebook pages (regardless of whether they are incriminating or are sanitized). It’s like … okay if I am like a 13 year old with a facebook, yes I can see why you’d want to see, but I’m 20 and my brother’s 24 … I’m totally honest about my life … and he’s reasonably honest … we aren’t hiding things … we volunteer info … and we shouldn’t be policed. Anyways, she’s royally pissed off about this, I don’t know how many times I apologized …