Odd, Very Odd.
I hope every-one had a nice Thanksgiving/weekend. Mine was okay, I was able to spend some time with the family before having to head to work. It’s been a long time since I didn’t have to work on Thanksgiving. I guess high school? Blah. It’s not that big of a holiday for me though. Not like Christmas. I LOVE Christmas. But, because I am leaving over New Years, I am almost certain she will make me work Christmas. No matter how many other holidays I have worked, and the OT from people quitting. Kind of sucks but hey….
I upset Frank today. I feel bad but I feel like his reasoning for being annoyed with me is a little stupid. Well, a lot stupid. I have never met or talk to anyone he knows. Except for one person. For four years, I only see him, and him alone. No parents, or hanging with friends, or anything. Odd huh? He’s a very, very private person. I respect that, don’t get me wrong. But I also want to know more about him, about those in his life you know? Anyway, this ONE person I know that’s a friend of Frank’s, I know because when we were playing Neverwinter Nights online, this guy would join us. He was friendly, cool, and Frank talks to his friends about me, so they know who I am. Anyway Fabo (his online name, the friend I mean.) is like the one person I have met that is friends with Frank. (Not met in person, just chatted online.) He has a myspace, he talks to me through Frank on messangers all the time. Well yesterday I joined this stupid site called Second Life, and Frank and all his buddies were in there, and he invited me in. No biggy right? Fabo joined, and he’s all happy to see me, and unlike Frank’s other friends, he includes me into conversation, and …well you get the idea. Soo I was like, I can consider this guy a mutual friend right? We chatted and played on this site last night for a few hours…Frank had no problem with it…in fact even left at one point and was gone for a bit. Obviously not too worried.
Sooooooooooo today I am like cool, I add Fabo to my myspace, or message him rather, and Frank got all upset when he found out. Like by my doing that invaded his privacy or something. He said he doesn’t like to reveal too much about himself to strangers and now I have mad an uncomfortable situation for him because it goes against how he is. He said he wasn’t mad at me, but annoyed. I was like, but you message Rachel all the time. What’s the difference? And he’s like but I have met her. And I told him that there was a time he would talk to her even before he ever MET her. Sooo yeah. The whole conversation was very odd, and I felt stupid and like he was being crazy.
The only thing I can think of to explain his strange behavior is either he wants to keep his girlfriend and friends seperate, or he’s worried we’re going to chat about him behind his back and he wont be in control of what’s going on. (He’s very much a control freak. But I put up with it because I love him. When he gets too bad, I let him know…) I feel bad that I upset him, but I think he’s being a little silly about it. It’s not like I plan to get the goods about Frank from Fabo. Nor is Frank worried I will dump him for Fabo…I dunno, the whole ordeal gives me a weird feeling. I didn’t go and add everyone he knows (that has an account on myspace) to mine. And I could, he’s shown me their pages. We’re not secrets to eachother. I just added Fabo, who has a repore of some sort with me. It’s not like we plan to become best buds. Which is what Frank might be worried about.
Maybe in a way I did invade his privacy, but he talks to Rachel all the time too. In fact when he thought I might be hiding something, he’d go to her to figure it out. Which used to piss me off to no end because she’d cough it up. I dunno, now he says "I’ll know better next time." which means what? Now I will never meet anyone he knows? Lol. I dunno. It was a bit too secretive to me and that bothers me a bit. I thought about confronting him on it, but I don’t want to stir up trouble. I also thought about stopping all contact with Fabo, but I don’t really feel like I am doing/did anything wrong. I think he’s just paranoid. Next time I just wont befriend anyone he knows right? Let them think I am some stuffy snob. I can cut off all ties.
I think he feels stupid too for overreacting. He said he knows I didn’t do it with the intention of annoying him, or to cause harm. Buuuuuut, then why be so crazy about it right? I mean had I never had a conversation with this guy, and I just added him to my list, then I can see how I might be invading his privacy. But Frank introduced us! Ahhhhhhhhh….. I don’t even know. He is extremely private, and that bothers me. Maybe I just feel cheated because I am so free on letting him inside my life you know? But that came with time too….I might talk to him about it when I see him. So he can’t hid behind a chat box. But if I know Frank, he’ll come around later and apologize for being so crazy today. He usually does when he thinks about it. I could be wrong this time ….who knows.
So other then that, nothing else is really new. We have already decorated for Xmas, and I have already wrapped some presents! Having them under the tree makes the anticipation greater, and the guessing more painful. Wanting to know whats in each package with your name on it. I love it. 🙂 This year my uncle is coming back from Chicago, and David is coming up from TN to spend Xmas with us…so we’ll have a full house in our apartment. I don’t know everyone will sleep, but it will be nice having them there none the less. I haven’t seen my uncle since he moved to Chicago last year before Xmas.
Well, I better get to studying. See ya.
opinion time 🙂 Sometimes guys don’t even know their closest friends that well and he may be reacting to that. Just be careful what you say to this friend of his don’t do what most women do and share a lot about Frank or the relationship and I think he’ll come around.
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it is very, very strange…. and i’d just pull the hypocrite card on him, tell him to grow up… and act his age. obviously he’s a very intelligent guy with a good head on his shoulders, he doesn’t need to be psycho – of course, i am SO sick of guys right now my advice prolly sounds harsh, lol! but yeah.. seriously… i forget how old he is but this is just stupid! and very hypocritical! –
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my honey wants me to remind you about the federal Do Not Call list, if you haven’t already put your name on it that might help…
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