Bedwetting……

So I went to my parents house last night and my mother was telling me that  my brothers fiance had changed doctors and she talked to the doctor about getting meds for her boy to stop wetting the bed and she did.  He’s on a medication for it now.  He should stop completely in a few months or at least that’s what the doctor says.  Like I’m the bad one almost for not putting him on meds or something.  Grrr. Mind you he’s 18 months older than Andrew and has no developmental issues like Andrew. This irritates me.  WHY???? I’ve looked this up and done a lot of homework on it…..Okay , litterally I have done homework on this as I took a sleep study class and well that is a sleep problem now isn’t it??  

The problem lies that I, nor my parents really in general, have little to no experience with this problem.  My brother did a little but was more laziness than the fact he had a problem.  They thought he did till they figured out he was wetting his diaper before he even went to bed .  I know I did it once or twice and both were my own doing.  There were circumstances and it wasn’t like soaking the bed type more like underwear and little of the sheets.  Okay once that they know about.   I may have been around 5 at the time.  Out of all my years that’s it… So they nor I really don’t know much about this subject from at least the personal stand point.  However …..husband was and so was Dennis and if I could get them to talk about it  (which is/was not that easy) I know more.  I know it switched off suddenly with Dennis.  Rich I don’t know as he has issues most of his life. Obviously it just about stopped too. He did it once in a while in his teens like maybe once a year  or more , if that.    Later years probably from sleep apnea and seizure disorder.  That sort of scares me as if he has what husband had  and if he’s worse off …will it honestly ever end???  I have serious doubts.   Will I look bad not doing anything then if by chance this does would with her boy?    
I do notice with all of them (even late husband), that when they have to go during the day time….they REALLY have to go RIGHT NOW! There’s not much of the oh I can wait going on. I wonder if that has something to do with it. Even when they are older.

The problem is I looked at the meds and to be quite honest and to see the side effects I can’t do it.  I don’t think I would ever do it knowing how Andrew is. Why?? The one is an antidepressant that is for adults and can build up toxic levels in the body and then there’s the other one that can cause fluid and  electrolyte problems……not good in a kid that has issues in that department.  That any drug that they choose to put him on usually means an EKG  and blood work.   Just to stop bed wetting is not worth it  in my book.  
Why does it have to be so complicated….probably in 10 years at the most its not going to be an issue.  

 Okay I got one more issue……
This year would have been Late Husbands 20th High   School reunion. they got a hold of his parents whom told the person that he had passed away and they made a tribute to him in the book as to update what people were doing now.  MIL told them the story and that he had a family.  They gave them 2 books with the tribute in it……do you think I got one???? NOPE!!  Guess who has the other……His brother. (the one that’s married)   WTF????? SO IL’s have one and him.     I swear sometimes it feels like I was nothing.  They asked BIL about the autopsy and he gets the fucking book. Hello he was married and has a family.  You are not involved in his life!