#79

Let the ear test the words as the palate tests the food. Too often people forget that they all came well-equipped to deal with the problems and situations that have been and will come at difficult crossroads throughout their life. We’ve come equipped with eyes to see the situations in front of us, ears to listen and to learn to understand, and a mind to seek the truth and wisdom of a situation. Too quickly people judge the situations without really looking deeper into them, without even trying to discern what it is they’re hearing. So the make decisions and often take the wrong path and end up further away from the conclusions, endings and achievements they’re supposed to be experiencing. So bit by bit, the begin to distance themselves from the things that are most important in life; your wife/husband, your studies and your livelihood, and thus began to become unhappy. Your significant other is extremely important in the way that it’s important for you to have someone to balance you out in times of stress and in times when you’re unbalanced emotionally and spiritually, someone to help bring you back to where you belong, to bring you back to the things you know and love and out of your terrible moods. Also, they’re extremely important in the fact that they’re the people whom you share your entire life with, your entire being with….sharing and exploring is an extremely important thing for growing as a person. Now this sort of person might not actually be a mate, I do agree, but usually it is (in my experiences). Being too quick to judge and to just feel rather than to understand and to take the right paths at the crossroads easily detracts from your relationship with your mate and it’s easy to see how; fights caused from doing things they don’t like too quickly, snapping at them, being rude to them, ignoring them, not feeling out how they are and only caring about yourself; all of these are bad things for how tight and powerful a bond you should have with your mate. Your studies are important, too, in that you should constantly be striving to improve yourself as a person, to learn and to understand more and to be more and to use the time you have on the earth towards a good end. Taking the wrong paths at your crossroads instead of thinking about them and choosing the correct way easily messes that up, too. You might devote your time to other things, you might not really understand because you’re too busy feeling rather than thinking, among other things. As for livelihood….same things as with significant other and studies. I think that people really need to devote more time to honestly thinking and understanding passively rather than reacting and doing and living over-emotionally. I don’t dislike emotions, no, in fact living purely intellectually is just as bad (or even worse) than living purely emotionally. I just see people living over-emotionally so often…when I know they could be doing much better and it hurts me that they’re not.