Love?
I’ve been dating my g/f Holly for over 2 years now, I guess to be technical I should say 2 years and 4 months. 🙂 I do seriously feel like I love her, but a the same time I’m not so sure. i wonder because for quite some time I’ve been desperatly desiring the feeling of just loving someone so much you would drop everything in the world that is important to u, anything and everything for this girl. Ya know? The feeling f loving someone so much that the idea of running off and leaving everything u’ve ever known behind without even a glance back just because u want to spend every waking inute with this person. With Holly, I’m not sure I can do those things. I’ve been told that real love is nothing like the infatuations u would get in grade school and stuff. That u may be with this person for a long time with the tingly feelings and everything, but one day u’ll wonder where those tingly feeling went. Yet at the same time u can’t even imagine not being with this person and u are still attracted to them. But I don’t know and it scares me a little bit because I know I love her for her, ya know as a friend and more because I’ve been with her so long and have voluntarily put up with shit for years now. It has to be love right…? Or is it onlythe fear of being alone that I refuse to see that maybe Holly isn’t "the one"? I’m not sure and I do NOT want to talk to Holly about it because I in no way want to put any doubts in her mind. I want her to be happy with me and stay happy. I would hate to break her heart in any way. It’s just that when I think about a serious future, like marriage with Holly I just don’t see it happening. I really don’t. Like she wants to move to Houston after we graduate colege and get a job long enough to earn enough money to successfully do it. She wants to get married there. But my whole life I’ve lived here in this city in KY. My entire family just about lives here. I know no one in Houston and the fact that i am even bringing up all these points here I feel is something to worry about because like I mentioed earlier I want to love someone so unconditionally that I would think twice about moving anywhere with her… Or does that feeling realistically exist? Am I just a hopeless romantic that needs to come back down to earth and be real?
I don’t know.
Random noter here, but it’s better to ask these questions now rather than “just going through with it”. I do know that a girl will only wait so long for a guy to propose before she “gives up.” I, also know sometimes our emotions are the best compasses in realizing something isn’t quite right. I’d give it serious prayer and thought. Lots of prayer. Have you talked to any guys about this?
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(c) Maybe a mentor/father figure of some kind to help you discern your thoughts. Well that’s enough from the married lady here.
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sounds like love to me!!!! just do what you feel is right in your heart!!!!
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But you’re in the army. What if you get your orders to move to Germany or the Phillipines or whatever? I think if you aren’t right for eachother, you’ll grow apart naturally. But if you don’t, I would tell her.
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Thanks for the note! When you love someone, you know. I have been in love once, it didn’t work out, and I don’t expect to ever feel like that again. True love is a once in a life time opportunity that you don’t want to miss out on if you can help it. Just a thought though…If you love someone and want to be with them for your whole life, you should be able to tell them how you feel no matter what
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love is not totally based on feelings though. its based on so much more than that. its also based on action and morals. would you be tourtured and die for her?
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