Fashion struggles back sigh
A week ago or something I found out a girl in my class talked about me, that I am not feminine enough. And something stupid like an opinion hurts more than it should. I understand she says that though, but she shouldn’t say that behind my back. Lately, I tend to dress more ‘rock’ and ‘grunge’ if you can call it that way and that tends to look more boyish. And I already noticed that from myself before I knew she said that about me and I was already struggling with it and since I knew about her saying that about me I am struggling even more. The fact I am short and I look younger than I am will also have to do with it but I can say from myself I do have body curves already and hips and everything a woman needs haha, only I’m very insecure about my height and the way I dress, I don’t know how to dress anymore. It’s so confusing: I want to dress more feminine, because I like to look girly sometimes ( I just can’t find anything I like anymore when I’m shopping) but I also want to look tough and rock and all of that because I want to hide my insecurity and I like that too. I’m just sad that I found out a girl I’m pretty much good friends with says that about me and I immediately think "what if the whole world thinks about me like that? " and I know I shouldn’t care about other people’s opinions, but I do because I am sensitive. I don’t know I’ll figure it out eventually I guess. Although some encouraging words or advice would be nice.
People that talk trash behind your back aren’t worth your time. My two cents, I always liked the look of girls that mix it up and can dress down casual in flannel, then surprise you with that little black dress when you go out for something special. Plus you’ve got a great smile in your pic so you’ve got nothing to worry about except people that want to bring you down by talking trash. Take care.
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Dress in what feels good and right, and keep your eyes out for girly stuff you’d wanna wear when you’re out.
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aw thankyou!
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I agree that I would dress in what makes you feel comfortable. I don’t think that girl’s opinion should make you feel bad or over concerned with what she thinks because she isn’t important. If you want to try something new, maybe add a few pieces of cool jewelry. I’m not very girly either, but sometimes a bracelet or necklace makes me feel pretty.
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I am pondering this one… and I have raaaaaaved many times before about your soft and extremely feminine FACE. The precious element of that simply defies mere words here. And speaking of hips, and curves and things… there is an element of the human mind liking to THINK it knows, from fashion magazines, ALL of the things that feminine appearance is SUPPOSED to entail…
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… and no matter HOW mouth-watering some of those features ARE… the mind is trained to expect them everywhere… so even IF you have the wonderful HIPS you want and that enviable soft-spoken beauty clearly obvious in your face… and, say, the right bra size, they will STILL look around and observe/find/notice the weakest link, no matter what it IS…
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… SO they will always cause their eyes to be scanning all around you… no matter how much they envy many of your physical traits, they will just land on one or two which seems “out of place” with regard to the high standards maintained by most of your appearance. So, I think, in the actual high stratosphere that you occupy beauty-wise, you really shouldn’t fret the weaker links.
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Finally… when it comes to raw, physical beauty (especially in a woman), the highest altitude of beauty is reached and maintained by those who have so many individual areas of great appeal that they cause/inspire a guy’s eyes to keep moving around the (gasp – OBject) of his attention. I can only imagine so far just what matches with that wonderful face.
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A Little Rebellion: Thank you for the advice, I’m doing a lot better now 🙂 and to the anon: you are really one of the sweetest people to me on the internet and I wanted to thank you for your kindness because I can’t describe how it feels to read those words, it is amazing. You even put me in a good mood again because I just read this, I don’t know who you are,but thank you. You are wonderful!
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(this is me too) (does anonymous noter prance) LOL (carefully presses “unsigned note” ) (FYI – I ALWAYS, sooner or later, forget to do it right, and reveal myself) (so just you wait… )
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(laughs at self) (cries)
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