VD, OD, FB

So I guess I’ll start with Valentine’s Day.  Lots of my faves posted entries about how people who think Valentine’s Day is stupid are stupid.  I can’t say that I agree with them.  I can totally understand not wanting to deal with the hassle.  Just like Christmas, there’s too much pressure to get someone the perfect gift or to not disappoint someone.  That being said, I do think that it’s pretty easy not to get caught up in the hype and have a nice, low key Valentine’s Day without having to focus on the commercialized aspect.

Since we moved in together, Duckie and I have done pretty much the same thing for Valentine’s Day.  We either make a meal at home or, as we have for the past 2 years, we get a heart shaped pizza and have it at home.  The first Valentine’s Day, we bought gifts.  Let’s face it…Valentine’s Day is for chicks.  Even if you can’t think of anything else, you can get a girl some chocolate and flowers.  Maybe a stuffed animal.  Guys?  Not so much.  I remember that Duckie bought me a nightgown that year, but I can’t remember what I bought him.  Since then, we’ve made each other gifts.  Duckie often draws things for me and I make him something from clay or crochet something.  

This year, I cheated a little and paid $10 to name a cockroach in his honor.  The Bronx Zoo was doing a thing where you could donate $10 to some wild life fund and name one of their 50000 Madagascar Hissing Cockroaches.  Here’s what they look like:

I named it Hagbard.  I also crocheted him a cockroach to go with the naming.  Duckie LOVED it!  He ran out of time because of stuff at work and ended up having to buy me something, so I asked for a box of Whitman Sampler chocolates.  And I got it.  We ate our heart shaped pizza and my chocolate and then we did the Valentine’s dance (if you know what I mean, wink wink, nudge nudge).  It was nice.

There was a lot of speculation that OD was going to go away and never come back.  Folks were freaking out.  Everyone was Reader’s Choicing a bunch of entries that were basically bitching about OD.  And I realized something.  I don’t actually care if OD goes away and never comes back.  It seems like I barely ever write here and I’ve been so bad at noting for months that it’s a wonder that any of my faves still bother with me.    That doesn’t mean that I’ll leave OD…just that I don’t think it would break my heart if it disappeared.  Don’t get me wrong, I’d miss my faves…but I have most of them on Facebook anyway.

Which brings me to my last little bit here.  I intend to get rid of my Facebook.  The site is nothing but trouble and, honestly, I’m pretty sick of everyone I know.  I could not possibly care less if you ate a fucking peanut butter and mango sandwich for lunch or if your kid just took a giant shit all over the sink.  I just don’t care.  People’s asinine updates (mine included) about every tiny fucking thing that goes on in their lives make me miss anything important that anyone has to say anyway.  I have one friend that’s started posting a Bible verse every half hour.  Seriously.  Every half hour.  All I ever see on my wall are her fucking Bible verses.  Until I set it up not to see anything from her anymore.  If she had something important to say now, I’d never know.  Whatever happened to calling your friends when something major happened in your life instead of sharing it with 500 of your closest Facebook friends?  And the things people share.  Holy crap, man.  I don’t need to know that you’ve been on the shitter for 4 hours or that you started vomiting while you were going down on your boyfriend last night.  Not on FB anyway.  That’s what OD is for!  Anyway, I figure that folks can either get in touch with me the old fashioned way (instant messenger – haha) or the REALLY old fashioned way (email) or the totally unheard of ancient way (phone call).  Sorry, I don’t do smoke signals.  The folks that can’t be bothered…well, who wants to be friends with them anyway?

(No worries, faves, I’ll give you my contact info before I disappear off of FB.)

 

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February 17, 2012

Hugs.

February 17, 2012

Hey, I bother with you because 1) you’re awesome, 2) you say stuff that I like to read, and 3) you’re awesome. BUT I don’t find that I am ENTITLED to your words, but I enjoy them when they are present and will miss them if they go away. So there’s that! Hope everything is going well. Cheers!

February 18, 2012

I’ll definitely take a picture of Hagbard next time we’re at the zoo. That’s an awesome Valentine’s present. I love FB, I feel a million times more connected to friends/family ever since I joined the site, and I love how up-to-date it keeps me. It’s basically become one of my primary news sources and how I stay connected with my causes. That said, idiots and people who abuse the newsfeedSUCK. I can see why you’d want to leave. We’ll just have to go back to writing letters to each other!

February 18, 2012
February 18, 2012
February 18, 2012

I agree, I just recently heard of the OD fail…not sure what to think of it…. but we could always keep up. FB….I too have been thinking the same thing… and guilty of the same… I donno…. In the mean time, how about carrier pidgons? or African Swallows?

February 18, 2012

I totally agree, my cousin announced on FB that she was pregnant in December but I missed it because well… it’s FACEBOOK! What the hell happened to emailing or calling your family when big stuff happens? If I announce something important on Facebook it’s because I’ve already told the people who matter *sighs*. That being said I mostly joined FB to have a place where I can talk to all my OD friends in one place when OD goes down (that and FarmVille, hehehe). 90% of my list are OD people so I don’t mind their updates. The bible verse thing would have driven me insane and I probably would have done a lot more than block the chick. The only FB trouble I’ve had is the thing with my cousin and that’s not bad since I’ve been on the site for three years. That is a freaking AWESOME V-Day gift!! I don’t like that some women expect some lavish dinner followed by jewellery, flowers and chocolate and perhaps topped off with a romantic hotel room EVERY. SINGLE. YEAR and when they don’t get it they throw a fit. Granted I’d love a V-Day like that but I certainly not expect and especially not every year! I was happy with my sweet card. 🙂

February 18, 2012

hey! i posted a status about this! hahaha. and then i posted one about posting one. and then… well, you get the point. wanna know how many times i went to the bathroom today? neither do i.

February 19, 2012

I’ve thought about that.. getting rid of facebook. My problem with that is.. the few friends I have that… are on the other side of the world. :/ Intant messaging doesn’t work, we’re never on at the same time… email could but I so fail at checking emails… and well phone calls are just to bloody expensive. 🙁 I rarely do much more than scroll through my main page though. *shrugs* Themajor thing that would make me sad.. would be loosing all my entries here, but I saved most of them a month or so ago.. soo I wouldn’t loose much if it just randomly disappeared… I should do a new save though, just encase.

February 20, 2012

hee about the cockroach! half hour bible verses? sheesh.

February 21, 2012

RYN: I agree that some of the reactions are childish but at the same time it’s pretty clear that OD doesn’t have much of a future and wanting to have a place similar to this to go is understandable hence the lifeboat mailing list being created in case something happens. Like I said plan for the worst while hoping for the best. But I honestly don’t feel this site can continue on this wayfor longer than a couple years. I’d like to have a place like this with my journal for many more years and that’s what the safety net of the mailing list offers. Have you read Kate’s entries and what she plans to do if OD goes down? I don’t find them childish, I find them reasonable and sensible.

February 21, 2012

RYN: *giggles at your RYNs*