The One Time No One Will Read This

rarely do I ever do a clear picture of anything really. I am not one who will vent or ask for help in any case but my nerves are shot. I do not know what to do. I have a deep fear of letting my son go to his mother’s for another solid week. The last time I did he came back with bruises everywhere on him, looked like he had been wearing the same underwear for the entire week that were turned inside out and the front was turned to the rear. The law says there needs to be a pattern. I DO NOT want a pattern for my son. for those of you who dont know, my son is 5..I cant even take him to McDonalds anymore because he is afraid his mother is there…I cannot take certain roads without him screaming in fear that he has to go to his mother’s. I do not even know why I call her his mother when in the past four weeks she has not not called or texted at all to even see how he is. I need help on so many levels on this it isnt even funny. I am literally stuck between a rock and a hard place and have no where to turn. I hope someone will read this…no I beg for anyone to read this but it isnt going to happen. I am sitting here in tears with fear for my son and the damage that is being done to his small young mind. We as parents need to start standing up and fighting for our children. the only pattern they need to know is love, caring, and happiness! They dont deserve the next Casey Anthony or Susan Smith. they deserve to be loved and raised to care about others. Not thrown into violence and ongoing living situations that they endure. What can we do as citizens to stop all of this from becoming a pattern? Do we need to elect new officials? Have character tests done for judges?? I have no clue anymore!! Will someone….anyone guide me to an answer!! I DO NOT want to send my son back into a nightmare that his tranquil mind will never get over!!

Unfortunately, you can’t do much of anything, except for stay the course. We live in a period of very little justice because people are dishonest. You need to document everything and that will likely mean calling the police and taking him to the hospital when he gets back. There are worse things than sending him for a week and that’s to lose custody of him for disobeying the judge.

You can’t keep him from going through it, but there are better ways of walking him back out of it. Be honest with him, without prejudice about who your wife is as he grows up. Let him know that she has problems, not him. That it’s not a lack of love for him, but a lack of love for herself. She will always be his mother. She’s a part of his self-image, so anything you say about her reflects on him.

I wish I could say something that would make you feel better. As a single mom, I know how weighted our children are in a parent’s heart. Maybe you should consider putting your son in therapy because if a professional believes there is a problem, they could fight for your son’s behalf. He might also be able to deal with his problems in the long run, like, early childhood intervention. Good luck.