days go by

I’ve been busy for the last few months. Met a girl. Started dating. Started having sex. Signed my part of settlement for the divorce. Still waiting on, well I don’t really know what I’m waiting on, something so that the divorce can be finalized. So that’s all in limbo. But I don’t feel like a married man. I haven’t felt like a married man for a long time. I didn’t feel like one even before she ran me out. But I did try to play my part. My car got wrecked.  I’ve been walking to work. A lot has happened. And I’ve not been writing about it. I need to. It does me good.

For now the big this is that I found out that she left the state and took the kids with her. I don’t know how that works with the divorce not being final and all. It hurts to know that she did that. And it makes me mad. She knows that the settlement allows for me to have access to the kids. And it allows for her crappy, false order of protection to end. In leaving she is denying me my rights. She’s making it as hard as she can for me to have anything to do with the kids. It’s not right.

I found out about her leaving by chance and accident. I was checking the directory for all the wards of my church in the area. I was looking someone else up. As i’m looking though I passed where my folks are listed and where I’m listed. In the past, just a few weeks ago, she was there in her own listing separate from me. Now that listing is gone. Which means she’s gone. She’s moved and requested her record be transferred to where ever she moved.The worst part is that I can’t say anything about it. Technically I’m not supposed to know what she is doing or where she is living. That’s in the terms of the OP. And until it expires I’m in the dark.

It will all come to a head. I’m not going to leave the divorce in limbo forever. Before the summer is out I’m going to push to get it final. I’m going to give time for the sake of being reasonable. But eventually I’ll push to get it done. And if she can’t be there because she isn’t in the state and can’t get back. Well that’s too bad. She’s brought it on herself. And eventually it’s going to catch up with her.