Fear

Ok so my oldest daughter turned 18 recently. That brought up some fear regarding her father my abusive ex husband showing up. I know its been years since he has been around but now I just get really scared sometimes that he will show up wanting to have a relationship with her and that she will eventually change her mind and want to see and talk to him. I started having nightmares of him again. Some so intense that for a few nights after, I was afraid to go to sleep. I hate being in fear. I also got scared for a little bit recently cause of tension at home with the curent relationship im in there is off and on tension cause im not smoking anymore and he is. I get scared that he will end up hurting me like all the other men did.. In all reality, I couldnt handle another abuser and consindering how I ended up after leaving the last two I dont know what would happen if I had to go thru it all again.