A question

 On another site, someone asked a question " do you think your parents made any major mistakes when raising you, and if yes how did they affect you?"

Some people who answered that question obviously had perfect home lives, and were offended that some people really did blame a lot of how they ended up in a negative spot on their parents. It turned into a lot more of a thank your parents debate than I think the original question needed.

No one is saying you have to blame your parents for anything, it was a simple question to see how people felt about it. But it WAS interesting to see the varied answers. Me, I’m sort of on the line with this one…. so I thought I would include MY post on the answer to this question.

This is a really touchy subject. When a parent makes a choice, they obviously believe that they are doing something for the best of the situation, whatever it may be. I’m not condoning abusers, or users, or anything like that. Coming from a family with a non committed abusive father, and a drunk pushover for a mother, they were FAR from perfect. They will never be the model set that you would want to show off to everyone, and hell,it’s hard even going out in public with them because of the things they STILL do that are so out there. But they raised me, and regardless how much they pushed me away, tried to control my decisions, forced me into things I didn’t want, and couldn’t see me for who I am, they took care of me. Sure there are laws that say they have to. But really some parents don’t even follow those laws! Some parents will leave a child out on the street, and tell them to fend for themselves if they don’t like it. So while returning to a home of fear doesn’t sound much better, when you’re faced with the choice it definitely is.

I think parenting is a tough card. It’s a lot of pressure to be responsible for another life and how they turn out. And sometimes despite your very best efforts, your child won’t turn out the way you raised it. A lot of crazy people had fantastic parents! I think the way we turn out as adults is completely dependant on what we make of ourselves and our lives. We take our experiences and use them for what we will, and then if we choose to blame or credit someone else, well, maybe thats one of our own biggest mistakes.

Thats about it, just thought I would save this here, where pretty much everything else of importance in my life is stored. Ha