* Divorce* And again I tried.

Again for the thousandth time I tried talking to my lazy butt husband about the state of our marriage. Of course I get the normal run around, or out right refusal from him to talk about it. If he talks it is not about the marriage its about how I got mad at him for hitting Mikey on the side of the face for spitting at him. So basically he will change the subject and not even talk about the state of our marriage.

I believe we should never of gotten married. Other than our twins who are almost 3 , our 4 1/2 year marriage was a complete waist. There are several reasons why I want to get divorced, but I want my husbands opinion on how he thinks the marriage is going before I so anything. He says its fine or ignores me, which is most of the time. Should I tell him I want the divorce or just go see a Lawyer soon and start talking to her, then kick him out of the house.

The reasons for wanting a divorce are the abuse, the yelling the screaming and the general not getting along. The fact he wont financially help support his kids since leaving the Army. His constant belittling of the fact I believe in God and want to go to a worship service. He refuses to go. Says god is not real and laughs at the idea of him.

I have been wanting a divorce for a few years now. My question is should I first kick him out and then ask for a divorce or should I just go see the attorney I have been looking at first and then get an idea of my options of divorce.

For those who do not know me or followed my diary there is a long and troubled past with my lazy hubby, that at times has gotten kinda violent.

Aj_18

March 28, 2010

If he is abusive you need to be very very careful. First off you need to consult an attorney and look into getting a domestic violence restraining order that will keep him out of the house. You definitely need to look into protection for yourself because this is a very very dangerous situation.

They call me O

i would first talk to someone in your family if that’s an option, then a lawyer. divorce sucks anyway you look at it. i’m working on one right now. but don’t let your fear of him hold you up, be strong for yourself and your babies. 🙂 take care and good luck. and religion is personal, do what feels right to you. ps- just a random noter. 🙂

Tiffany Pretzel

You are brave in considering divorce.I suggest that you write him a letter if words are not effcient.Sometimes written thoughts are easier to understand and more meaningful.If he talks to you about your marriage after seeing the letter I suggest that you listen to his entire side of story.If he beleives that your marriage is going in a negative direction too, than talk with the lawyer. Good Luck!

SweetTam

March 30, 2010

I think it would be a good idea to talk to your family about what you are thinking of doing and see if they will help you with the process of divorce by being there for you just incase he does try to hurt you or threaten you into changing how you feel. Then consult a lawyer about how to go about divorcing him. You have the upperhand atleast unlike some women since he is the one without a job and..

and you live with your family so he has to be the one to go. I have be reading your OD since you were still pregnant with the twins and all he has done is try to bring you down with him.